im a teen with very little ability to orgasm...help:(

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ok i have several questions regarding my sex life. yeah im 16(pretty young)
just about a year ago i started having sex with my boyfriend but as we went on through the year i realized that after he had came once he did not want to have sex until mabe an hour later. He said he felt uncomfortable and I really wasnt sure why. since we were each others first partners we had a lot of questions
-why does his penis feel uncomfortable after he comes?
-why is it that i dont like the way certain positions feel?
-why is it that i dont like the way it feels after i orgasm..i just want to stop the sex?

[Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D.]

Ok, here is a short hand approach to some very sensible questions that could take a very long time to answer completely!

First, he probably has to wait an hour to recover. Most men cannot get an erection right after an ejaculation. He may be shy about telling you that but that is the truth. He is probably not sexually interested right after an orgasm-- that is one of the things an orgasm does- satisfy one's sexual urges for awhile. I doubt if his penis feels uncomfortable-- perhaps overly sensitive-since that is also common after orgasm.

   Different positions have different feelings because the nerve endings that get sensitive and excited during intercourse are more sensitive in some places than others. Most of the nerve endings are in the clitoris, upper third of the vagina ( close to the opening) and the cervix ( the bottom of the vagina and the end of the uterine  area.  The stem of the clitoris goes farther back than sticks out- that area too may be very sensitive when touched or when the movement of the penis touches that area or pulls on lips of the vagina which stimulates those high nerve ending areas. Interesting enough, there are not too many nerve endings along the sides of the vagina although there may be some on the roof of the vagina about two inches inside the opening. Some people refer to that as the G spot and think it is very intense when touched. Others do not seem to find this area particularly pleasurable.


After an orgasm , all your nerve endings are SO sensitive that it can feel unpleasant, even painful, if touched or restimulated in any way...exactly how your boyfriend may feel.. It takes a little time for them to quiet down...
no big problem in any case..

[LittleTiny Me]

I had my first sexual experience at 20. I thought it would just be better to wait. I have been having sex for a year now with the same partner. Me and my bf have been together for 2 years. We were each other's first. Through out that year we learned several things. May I add first that you take care of yourself. Use condoms, Birth control pills, Plan B, Spermicide and make sure you get the Pap Smear (that I know of, you are suppose to get it once you become sexually active)

First off; when my bf cums, and I am still feeling it...he cant continue having sex. Not only does his penis get weak, its also not hard. So he has to wait about 20 minutes max so that he can regain his "strength" I dont know if this is for all males. Next, we noticed too that he finishes quicker when we are having sex Doggie style (gosh I hate that term!). We have tried several different positions and may I say....I dont like all of them. Some feel a bit weird and I often dont feel much. So I take it its normal not to be comfy with all positions. The orgasm thing...sorry sweetie I am currently working on that. That one I cant help you much with it as I havent experience it as much as I would love it!! Hope all this helps!!
:)

-LTM