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How to tell if my girlfriend has an orgasm?
Answered by
Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D. - Sexuality, family, Sexual Identity
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How to tell if my girlfriend has an orgasm?
by MrCurious, Jun 07, 2007 12:00AM
So me and my girlfriend haven't had sex yet but we do touch each other and try to get each other to orgasm. I've touched and massaged my girlfriend down there and I've asked her if she ever orgasmed. She can't tell if she orgasmed or not. I mean its very easy for guys to tell if they *** or not but how do you tell with a girl?
Doctor's Answer
by Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., Jun 10, 2007 12:00AM
, Jun 10, 2007 12:00AM
Believe me, if she has had an orgasm, she will know and you will probably see a different and more intense reaction in her, including a red flush on her face or body, intense quick breathing and heart rate and a change in her body tension.
I would stroke her longer, asking her when it feels intense, when it is not particularly exciting. Try stroking the whole clitoris- not just the little part that you can see, but the whole 'stem' of it that you can feel when you follow up from the exposed part with your fingers. Also, try using a vibrator with her while you are touching her or instead of touching her-- or get an internal vibrator ( put it in her vagina) and touch her while you are doing that...
Once she learns how her body has an orgasm, you will too, and it can become more regular.
1. Moans and groans
2. Heavy breathing and body movements
3. Complete relaxation after the spasms are over
4. May not let you touch, stroke or feel her body/vagina after she comes as the original feelings are replaced by a ticklish feeling. You'll have to carefully maneuver yourself to get your part done if the orgasm was not simulataneous. In such a case, holding her tight (as opposed to the gentle touches earlier)while entering her will distract her from the ticklishness.
5. There is a disadvantage in a woman getting an orgasm - in some cases she will not want sex for some time as she's satiated. So its much better to bring to the peak and let her off and complete sex (they don't want a climax all the time) if you want to have another session later or even the next day!!!!