Sexual health

[conf.gl]

I have never had an orgasm before and had never really tried to work on it myself untill the other day. I stimulated myself to the point of shaking violently and then alot of fluid came out of my vagina, I think. The next day, still not sure if I peed myself or if I had an orgasm, I tried it again and everytime I got the feeling that I had the day before, I peed. I am so confused as to whether I actually had one or if I peed myself. I am so afraid now, even more so then before, to try with my bf because what if I pee on him, or even worse what if he's orally pleasing me and...,  That would be so embarring. So, how do I know if I actually had an orgasm or not? And why do I pee during one if I am having one?

[Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D.]

       First of all, we need to know if you actually peed. Did it smell like urine? Or was it actually clear or whitish and sticky?  If it was the later it was lubrication produced by excitement.

         If you did pee, you may have relaxed your bladder when you were aroused. This is not unusual but obviously something you would like to have control over. If you learn how to flex your kegel muscles ( the same muscles you would use if you were trying to hold a stream of urine from coming) these muscles get stronger-- and you can use them not to pee at any time. If that proves unsuccessful, go see a gynecologist and see if there is any physical reason that causes you to pee.

    Meanwhile, shaking , while a sign of arousal in some cases, is not an orgasm. An orgasm is intense pleasure, a spike of pleasure that may be experienced as as waves of intense feeling followed by a blissful feeling afterwards, a loss of sexual desire and sometimes sleep or complete relaxation.  While you may have stimulated yourself to an intense reaction, it is not clear to me that you had an orgasm. Let me know if my description suits the experience you had.

   Meanwhile, if you know your boyfriend well enough to have sex with him, you should be close enough to collaborate on having an orgasm and also letting him know that you are trying to deal with any other issues that come up while you are learning-- including the issue of possible urination. If he is worthy of you , he will understand and the two of you can work through excitation and orgasm together. Do talk to your doctor first , however, if you are sure you released urine instead of streams of lubrication. There may be a physical issue you have to deal with-- if not, don't be afraid of peeing all the time. You will definitely learn how to separate excitement from urination.

[joseph71]

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[conf.g]

First, thank you for your professional opinion. I have since descovered the difference between the two and the stimulation which caused each isolated reaction. I think I am just sensitive and have heard that the fact that I have had a child helps with that. Thank you for your help!


Next for the Church of.....whatever your from. Maybe the next time you want to win someone to Christ...or whatever it is you call it, you should read Rom. 8:1 and maybe give a little grace instead of condemning, might go over better. The Lord does hate sin and cannot look upon it, but he absolutely possitively still loves the sinner. Oh yeah, and about the sperm being precious...good thing my sperm count is ZERO! thanks