ORGASM

[pelusa]

HI, I AM A FEMALE AND THE ONLY WAY FOR ME TO GET A ORGASM IS BY ORAL SEX,MASTURBATION ,IS THIS NORMAL? EVERY TIME WE [MY HUSBAND]HAVE SEX , IF I DONT GET ORAL SEX IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO CLAIM ORGASM SO MOST OF THE TIME THE ONLY THING THAT I GET IS FRUSTRATION

[Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D.]

Its extremely normal and common and I think a very large number of women have an orgasm this way and this way only. It really doesnt matter how you do it-- its a gift and pleasure with any technique!! Just have your husband continue to please you in this way and just use intercourse for feeling good and close-- tell your husband, and you can quote me , that it is actually much harder for most women to have an orgasm  during intercourse because it doesn't arouse the clitoris as easily. The best answer is not to try and make intercourse the central way he pleasures you- but to give you your orgasm, and then make love through intercourse as a way to feel close, feel pleasure and give him bliss. The point is there is no specific way a woman has to have an orgasm- or a man for that matter,. The important thing is to love to make love to each other and with each other-- not to  imagine that orgasm during intercourse is necessary.

[Yaime25]

I know what you're talking about.  I experience the same thing.  I think is mental.  I've decided to break that cycle.  When I masturbate I try just to use my vibrator and nothing else like my fingers.  I've discovered that letting go is the key, not thinking about it too much and just concentrate on feeling.  When you're alone try to practice, since you're by yourself, you'll be able to let go and enjoy without pressure.  It has worked for me.  I'm 25 been married for 3 years.  I have never had and orgasm while having intercourse without touching myself too, but I'm working on it.

[Telef]

Take Sentia pills. My wife thinks that this drug is very helpful. She became having orgasms only after the course of this drug.