My depressed grandma is acting out on me..

[summer]

I live with my gram and a couple years ago I was depressed, Ive gotten over that kept my grades up and I am being weaned off my meds. Ever since this turn around shes been mean and nasty,she hides my mail from me,letters from family,college info. she never leaves the house watches lifetime and goes online all day.She blames me for her neglecting,isolating herself and stupid things like an appliance not working.She constantly puts me down, telling me Im not smart enough to go to college Ill never achieve my goals because of my past and if I wouldnt have gotten depressed things would perfect for me and her.My mother gave her severe problems as a teen and she constantly compares me to her when its evident Im not. I cant get a car,let guys in my room go shopping alone because of things my Mom did.My Doctor has made it clear to her she no longer has to worry about me but she ignores him. She shows no interest in my schoolwork.If Im ill she wont take me to the doctor unless she feels my head and i feel warm,I called home from school becuase I vomited in class and she yelled at the nurse telling her not to allow to call home unless i have a fever because if i dont shes not picking me up. My counselor told her I needed to see a Doctor but wont take me.This treatment is bringing me down please help.

[HFHS-M.D.-HG]

Dear Summer,



It seems like your grandmother is being unable  to see you as a different person  from your mother. It is unfortunate that you have to go through this. She may be trying to achieve something which she was unable to do with your mother. Her behaviour  obviously is hurting you. You need to continue  seeing the counsellor and express your concerns.  Family therapy would be helpful, if your grandmother agrees  to participate. Also your counsellor may need to keep a close look for any recurrence of depressive symptomatology. Good Luck.



Sincerely

HFHS-M.D.

[Anonymous]

Sounds to mee like your grandma may be depressed herself and is jealous that your life seems to back in order.  Don't let her push you around, you're a mature young woman who has her head on right.  You don't seem to have a problem, but maybe your gram needs some help now.

Take care.

[bill]

Have you talked to anyone at school about your situation?  You might try talking to the nurse who got yelled when you got sick and called home. She would be able to verify what happened and will likely be able to get some one at your school to help, especially if you needed to see a doctor and your grandmother wouldn't take you.  You should also contact a counselor or social worker if your school has these people.  You shouldn't have to go through something like this.  Your grandmother may need help herself.  This way, you might be able to help yourself and her, too.

[A-a]

What was your grandma like before your depression?  Is it possible she has a mental illness herself?  She might have a personality disorder--or she could just naturally be nasty.  My grandmother's horrid, too.  Whatever her problem is, do all it takes to take care of you.  Do you have a school therapist who can help you?

[summer]

I wanted to thank those who commented on my situation.In case you want to be up to speed Im having my mail sent elsewhere and Im preparing for college by by taking the SAT and ACT.*~*Summer*~*