Why me????

[dave]

I need too know if loosing a best freind died in his sleep would cause all these phisical problems like when i try too sleep it feels like my heart stops beating soo i wake up suddenly i only get two or three hours of good sleep a night because of this and i have had three or four ekgs done and they said they were all normal but i feel like i am going too puke and nausea all the time so i went too a nerologist and they ran a eeg on me said it was normal so i went to a internist he said i was suffering from gerd and put me on prilosect one pill a day but my problems still are happening so i dont no what too do now i have seen  everyone i can see about this????? or have i?????? if i could sleep i would feel better???? the only time i can sleep is when i down two klonopins and two trazadones then i can sleep threw the night but all these meds probably arent doing nothing for my over all health . i have also read another article about when her dad died she had all the same phyisical symtoms as myself man this fit me to a tee  it has been three years since my freind has passed away so when will this feeling for him let up a little we were best freinds for twenty years man this (hurts) sob sob but i have a life too and i need to go on with my own life but man it just dont seem like it will never happen!!!! this site has been wonderfull for me with no where else too turn this site was a god send THANKS FOR EVERTHING.

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

Dave, the one thing that you have not tried is what is most likely to help you.  You should see a psychotherapist.



The loss is only part of the problem. Normal grief will take care of that in time, no matter how important your friend was to your life.  Its what this means to you that makes the difference in terms of how long the grief goes on.  This requires professional help...its very difficult for you to figure it out on your own.



If you can't afford a therapist now, or are reluctant to go at this time, go to my Masteringstress program and choose the session that deals with loss and grief, and ask for a review by me....I may be able to get your started in the right direction.

[kcossich]

Dave,



I am the one who had a post about losing my Dad and you posted to me earlier.  I, too, have trouble sleeping and when I lay down at night, I am constantly aware of my heartbeat and just sit there and listen to it!  I still have a fear of dying in my sleep, just like my Dad did, and I have been going to a grief counselor, which has helped very much.  I would agree with the doctor and please see a psychotherapist...it is worth going for a good night's sleep!  I still take a prescription sleep aid for now, but the counseling has made me feel much better :)



Kristy

[D ave Replogle]

Thanks for the help Kristy i am seeing a shrink but its not one that deals with loss but we have been talking about it though the last couple of visits maybe i should try this stress managment thing here and i have just started st johns wart too see if that will help???? have u tried any herbal stuff this is my first time well good luck too ya thanks for the help

[kcossich]

I would definitely try stress management as well...I do deep breathing and am going to start Yoga to help.  I also see a chiropractor, which helps with the muscle tightness, etc.  Definitely continue to discuss your loss of your friend with your therapist, because it is important that he/she understands how deeply it has affected your life.  I am NOT a doctor, so I am just telling you from my own experience.  Keep me updated on how you are doing!



kcossich