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Roger Gould, M.D. - Mental Health, Wellness
Questions posted in the Mental Health forum are being answered by Dr. Roger L. Gould, author of the Mastering Stress and Depression program and affiliated with the UCLA. Department of Psychiatry. Topics covered include anger, attention deficit disorder (ADD), bipolar disorder, dementia, electroconvulsive therapy (ECT), learning disabilities, memory, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), panic, personality disorders, phobias, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), schizophrenia, stress, transitions, and work problems.
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by janka, Oct 01, 2002 12:00AM
hello.......i8 months ago my marraige collapsed due to my ex-wifes infidelity and my adverse reaction to it......on the night she left i had had another shouting fit and she said it would be better if she went to her mothers for a few days so we could sort out our problems, she was adamant when she let that she would be coming back.....she arrived at her parents house in a very distressed state and the following morning her mother took her to the doctors and she was prescribed anti-depressent tablets....over the following weeks she remained with her parents and we shared custody of the children (we have three girls, 10, 12 and 14 now). at first we talked nicely on the phone to each other but as time went on she became spiteful in her attitude towards me which culminated in her telling me she wanted a divorce on the grounds of my unreasonable behavior. the two youngest girls were living with me continually at that stage as they prefered the security of their own home and the eldest would visit us at weekends, (i did offer to vacate the house so she could live here with all three girls but she declined)......in july of last year, which was 5 months after she had moved out of the marital home, she went away with my eldest daughter for what her parents thought was a weekend break but she phoned them on the monday to say she was not returning......she now lives out of the area.last year she phoned the 2 girls on a regular basis but the calls became more and more infrequent....the last time she phoned the girls was in march of this year, they didn't even get a phone call on their respective birthdays although one of them did recieve a card from her.......my eldest child and i had a normal father/ daughter relationship before she moved out of the area but she has now been turned against me and the only comunication i have with her is when she phones and leaves unpleasant messages on my answerphone although i haven't recieved one of them in a long time now thank god.,......the ex-wife has seen the girls on one occasion since she moved out of the area, she took them shopping for a day just before christmas.,......before the marraige split she was a caring and loving mother to the girls but now she seems to have no interest in them.,.........her excuse to her parents is that she doesn't see the girls because she doesn't want to see me but she could still phone them if she wanted.,..............she is not living with another man and is still being prescribed seroxat...........i suppose my question is.......has the medication affected her personality? she is adamant that the marraige collapsed because of me and she seems unable to see the role she played in its demise.
Doctor's Answer
by Roger Gould, M.D., Oct 02, 2002 12:00AM
, Oct 02, 2002 12:00AM
There is no reason to believe the medication could account for this behavior. What does account for it though is what you just said...she totally blames you and then runs away to avoid facing her part in what is always a two person set of mistakes.
She has created a story in her mind that justifies her fear of returning. Returning does not mean going back together..you two might decide to stay divorce. But returning does mean continuing to be a mother to her children.
You might want to work through her parents and have them tell her you will stay out of the way if necessary so you can visit her daughters, and that it will be good for everyone if she makes the effort to reconnect.
She has created a story in her mind that justifies her fear of returning. Returning does not mean going back together..you two might decide to stay divorce. But returning does mean continuing to be a mother to her children.
You might want to work through her parents and have them tell her you will stay out of the way if necessary so you can visit her daughters, and that it will be good for everyone if she makes the effort to reconnect.
The breakdown of relationships on Paxil/Seroxat due to an inability to feel the emotions felt before having been prescibed the medication, is becoming increasingly evident on support sites. A "lack of emotion" can be seen listed in this extract from:
http://www.paxilinjurylawyer.com/html/faq.html
"...The nervous system is greatly affected by Paxil. A few of the ways the nervous system is affected by the use of the antidepressant drug is: Central Nervous System stimulation, impaired concentration, depression, vertigo, emotional instability, temporary paralysis of a muscle that is sometimes experienced with an intense pain, a sensation that the individual has that the external world is revolving around him/her, amnesia, a failure of muscular coordination or an irregularity of muscle action, depersonalization, hyperkinesias, convulsion, hallucinations, hypertonia, manic reaction, abnormal thinking, a lack of coordination, lack of emotion, and paranoia.
Other side effects of Paxil may include aggression, violence, and suicidal behaviors....."