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She say she was hot for her old lover all the time
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Roger Gould, M.D. - Mental Health, Wellness
Questions posted in the Mental Health forum are being answered by Dr. Roger L. Gould, author of the Mastering Stress and Depression program and affiliated with the UCLA. Department of Psychiatry. Topics covered include anger, attention deficit disorder (ADD), bipolar disorder, dementia, electroconvulsive therapy (ECT), learning disabilities, memory, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), panic, personality disorders, phobias, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), schizophrenia, stress, transitions, and work problems.
She say she was hot for her old lover all the time
by wayland, Jul 04, 2004 12:00AM
I love a lady who I have lived with for 1 year now. Sex was great at first. Now it's every two weeks or so. She is always telling me how hot and horny her old lover of 8 years made her, She wanted sex with him almost every day she says. It's been 2 years since there breakup. She tells me I am a great lover when we make love. My problem is 1. sex every 2 weeks is no good for me. 2 hearing about her old lover is no good for me. We both are willing to work this out if we know what to do. Thanks, Wayland
Doctor's Answer
by Roger Gould, M.D., Jul 06, 2004 12:00AM
, Jul 06, 2004 12:00AM
You are starting to do the right thing now by talking about it and identifying the first definition of the problem. Now you have to go further and figure out why this is happening. A good marital therapist can help. You also might get some help if each of you go to www. masteringstress.com and take the relationship quiz and follow through to get the full report, and work the sessions that take you to the next level and provide the substance you need to talk about. Once you have done that, if you want more help, ask for a consultation and I will read what you have done and see if I can help you directly.
jerry springer look out
um. but for wayland & his missus. i'd say you're both kind of defensive. him about not pleasing & her about not giving it up enough -- which is natural when things aren't going right in the bedroom. but if you try to take that down a notch & actually listen to each other (vocally, mentally, physically) you'll get to a new place with each other.
it's not easy tho' -- my exp. in relationships is it's like organizing your room -- it's not like you can do it once & the room's clean forever, you have to keep & tweaking & every now & then it's just gonna be a mess, period. but you can clean it up
or ...i guess you can always get a new room too..that's an option
What makes the sex great is the love you have for each other. My fiance is also my best friend he is the first man I have ever felt real love from and I have for him. Just our strong love for each other makes us want each other all the time. And on days we don't, who cares.....there are much more important things in life. We are just happy being together.
I laughed when I read what that person said about getting into the porn industry or something. I can't believe that is what concerns you in your relationship!
very immature.....grow up!