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Sexuality & Relationships (Expert Forum)
loss of orgasm
Answered by
Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D. - Sexuality, family, Sexual Identity
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loss of orgasm
by jadec123, Sep 29, 2007 09:34AM
I'm currently 37 weeks pregnant and very happy. I have a great and understanding relationship with my husband. Before I was pregnant, multiple orgasms were very easy to achieve, a highlight for both of us and our sexlife was very enjoyable. By the time I became 3-4 months pregnant I had a hard time having even one orgasm and now I can't respond to any sexual stimulation whether manual or during intercourse. I have dryness, so we try some lubercation, and I feel overstimulated and very uncomfortable.
Will I go back to our "normal" great sexlife or does pregnancy change your body forever?
Will I go back to our "normal" great sexlife or does pregnancy change your body forever?
Doctor's Answer
by Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., Nov 19, 2007 05:59PM
, Nov 19, 2007 05:59PM
To: jadec123
I have a few suggestions. Your body does change during pregnancy-- you have new hormone balances and another living being drawing on your body for his or her own needs. Of course everything is changed-- and eventually, when the baby is born, those hormones will go back to pre- pregnancy levels.
In the meantime, you should use lubrication-and remember-- there are many of them- so if one doesnt suit you, that doesnt mean that a number of others might not be good. Try Eros, Elexa ( by Trojan) , Pink ( very natural feeling) and /or Astroglide or others. Some of them should feel just like your own natural lubrication.
It may be a while, however, before things are back to "normal". You will have a child and if you are breastfeeding that also makes demands on the body ( and also tends to cause vaginal dryness for some women). And it will take a while before your body goes back to it's pre- baby state.
Don't despair though. You will be able to recapture your sexual compatibility again-- just try doing some new things in this period-- perhaps touching each other in a new way so that it feels good- doing less vaginal intercourse and more other kinds of stimulation, etc. Different doesn't always mean worse! Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D.
Member Comments (2)
by mvenegas, Sep 30, 2007 05:54PM
To: jadec123
Pregnancy does change your life, but not your sex life. It will take several weeks for your body to respond as it used to. But don't be surprised if you get added stimulation or lose some stimulation.
