Miscarriage with twins

[wtarae]

I am a 27 year old African American woman married with an 8 year old daughter my husband and I have been trying to conceive another child since 2005. In the summer of 2005 I found out I was pregnant. However this pregnancy was a blighted ovum and I had a D&C. I found out I was pregnant again in late fall of 2005. I had vaginal bleeding early on in the pregnancy. I thought this was strange because I never had this with my daughter. Anyhow I found that the baby was growing as it should and had a healthy heart beat, but I lost that baby at 14wks, my water broke and the baby was coming out feet first. I had a D&C as well. Tests were done on the baby and he was developing normally.  I asked my doctor what could have caused this however she was unsure and felt that I could get pregnant again successfully. I became pregnant again this year 2007 in late August. Shortly after I found out I started to bleed again. I got blood work done and had ultrasounds which revealed I was carry twins. Well my husband and I were so excited. November 17th I began to bleed lightly the bleeding increased over a day with clots. I went to the ER because I was having severe pain and bleeding. They did blood work and an ultrasound and told me that I had miscarried. Needless to say my husband and I are very upset and don’t understand why this continues to happen. Do you have any advice as to what to do and the future and what is causing this problem?

Thank you for taking the time to read and answer this.

[LJ307]

I am so sorry to hear about your lossess.  I've never tried to get preg. before now so I haven't experienced what you have.  I can only imagine how devastating it is to be so excited and then have that dissapoint.  I don't have any idea why this is happening.  Are you seeing and OB/GYN or a Reproductive Endrocronolgist?   The ladies on this site are very knowledgable and I'm sure someone will have some sage advise for you.  The one thing I learned this week that I can pass on to you is that you musts be seeing a RE rather than an OB/GYN.   Best wishes!!!!  I'm sending you lots of baby dust.  If it helps, a friend of mine recently gave me something called a "Dreambox"  it's a native american legend that if you write your dreams down on paper and put it in this box, then hold it in your hands before going to bed every night and think about acheiving your dream than the dream will come true.  If you believe in this sort of thing, I guess you'll have nothing to lose!

Good luck!

[wtarae]

Thank you for your inspiration. I am seeing an OBGYN. I wish I had of seen an RE. I did ask my OBGYN if I needed special attention because I was having multiple and my history, but she said no. Since midway through the first trimester all seemed to be okay. I will look into the "Dreambox" and I hope your dream comes TRUE!

[LJ307]

I think on this one I would disagree with your dr.  Given that you are so young yet are having difficulty sustaining a pregnancy would suggest you should be seeing a RE.  I would take matters into my own hands and make an appointment at least for a consult with an RE.  Does your insurance cover fertility issues?  

I've only been trying to conceive for 2 months now, it'll be my first pregnancy and I'm 42 so I'm new at this, I hope any of this helps..heres to dreams coming true!!

[wtarae]

I am unsure if my insurance covers fertility issues? I sure hope it does. Just reading from others experiences and knowledge on the subject I am even more pissed because something could have been done. I was told there was nothing they could do if I miscarried. However, at least I could have been in the care of an RE and maybe had some chance with my pregnancy. As soon as I heal from this loss physically I will book an appointment with an RE.

[tandkfisher]

I am so sorry for your losses.  I can just tell you that you should see an RE rather than an OBGYN.  I am currently pregnant almost eight weeks I was pregnant with twins through Frozen Embryo Transfer.  I miscarried one at 5 weeks.  I also lost a daughter at 37 wks due to umbillical cord problems.  My advice to you is to see a specialist.  I wish my OB had told me about the two vessel umbillical cord issue and how you are 6 times more likely to deliver stillborn because of it.  Should have been with a perinatologist instead.  best of luck to you I know you will have a little one soon.  

[wtarae]

I am sorry to hear of your losses as well, but glad to hear about your pregnancy.
When I found out I was pregnant with twins I was reading that you should see a perinatologist. Which is what I had suggested to my OB, but she said NO. I am sooooooo ANGRY. Anyhow I have to focus on healing and finding answers with an RE. It also tough because so many people knew we were pregnant with twins. We have told our  8 year old daughter the news, but have not faced family and friends which will be so hard to do.

I am so happy for you and may you have a WONDERFUL pregnancy.

[HeathJo]

This is my first month ttc, so I am not as experienced, but I would be just as angry! STupid bee-yotch doctor! What a horrible way to learn the lesson of taking your health into your own hands, and go with the research YOU find and your gut instincts.

I learned a hard lesson with a neck injury I incurred in 1999, which turned out to be a broken neck, but I did not get a decent doctor's opinion until 2005, after I ended up being unable to work or walk. Luckily, I had surgery and am OK now, but I got the news about fertility issues right after getting off my last medication for chronic pain. I jsut tink KNOWLEDGE IS POWER, and this laissez-faire attitude your doctor has is unacceptable!!!

My prayers are with you and your little lost angels. I am so very, truly sorry. My husband and I have a prayer box, same as dream box idea, so that is a good suggestion. It puts the decision in God's hands, which helpes me a little bit, but I have not been through what you have.

[Sibylle]

I am so sorry for you. I lost twins with 22 weeks, and I know how hard it is. My doc made three things and my second pregnancy went great:
1) progesterone shots - every day
2) estrogen shots every 2 or 3 days
3) Cerclage at 16 weeks.
I hope it will help you. Don't give up, at the end it is so good to have a baby in the arms, that we forget all the sadness we have gone through
Good luck,

Sibylle

[wtarae]

I am sorry to hear about your neck injury. I am glad you were able to the care you needed to help with the injury.

I am so upset right now and it has been so difficult to even move out of bed. I thank you for your encoraging words and thoughtfulness.

[wtarae]

I am sorry to hear about your loss. I am so discouraged. I thought I was being blessed by becoming pregnant with twins especially with my losses in the past. To have this happen is so devastating.

Thank you for the information. I plan on scheduling a RE appointment today for their next available.

I am glad your pregnanty went great.

Thank you for your words of inspiration

[LJ307]

So glad to hear your scheduling an appointment today with an RE.  At least you have 1/2 the battle won already, you know you can get pregnant.  The next step is sustaining it, I know you'll get there and be holding a baby in your arms next Christmas perhaps!  Keep us posted...