Behavioral Problems in my 4 year old

[maya876]

Cheyanne (4 years old) is becoming a handful and I am stressing about it.  Her teacher called this morning and said, she is out of control.  She doesn't want to sit still, she wants to run, she wants to rearrange the furniture, she is all over the place.  She said she has tried putting Cheyanne in a larger group, didn't work, a smaller group, didn't work, by herself, didn't work.  

I know what teacher is saying because Cheyanne is the same way at home.  She runs like she is insane.  I have to talk to her way too many times to get her to listen.  I finally got a handle of her opening my bf's car door and running off.  I mean Cheyanne has so much energy, you know when she is sick, she doesn't say anything and that is not normal for her.  She loves school too, I would hate to have to put her back in my aunt's daycare because the school don't want her there.  I would really be sad, because she is so much better in school than in daycare.

I am sure part of it, is that she is jealous of Samaya, she probably feels Samaya gets more attention.  That's not purposely, right now Samaya is in advance class and she just has tons and tons of homework and I have to help her a lot.  Samaya is always being invited to a program and I try to make a lot of them.  I realized that I have to sit with Cheyanne to do her homework, she likes it.  One minute she could be coloring nicely and the moment I go to look at Samaya to check hers, Cheyanne will scribble.

I know not too many parents want to admit something is wrong with their child, but I can't tell right now.  I have seen kids with behavioral problems and they are out of control, cursing, hitting parents, my child will never try and lift her hands to me, she doesn't even say shutup because she knows to me that is a bad word.  She does hit her sister and Samaya acts as if she scared of Cheyanne, so Cheyanne bullies her, I can not stand a bully.

Cheyanne has an appointment in January for her yearly physical, but I don't think this can wait, I think I may want her checked out.  I believe ADHD runs in Marlon's family, he didn't have it, but I think his niece has it and most of his cousins.  It's scary to think because Cheyanne is smart, the girl can spell her name, recognize her colors, her numbers, get herself dress (making sure she looks good in her eyes, lol), education wise, she is where she should be.  The teacher even mentioned Cheyanne is the youngest in the class, but one of the smartest.  SHe can work a computer, but her behavior is wild.  My child does not curse, and if she did, she heard it from some where else because I don't curse at all.

I am worried, any advice?

[franksmom]

well, first thing i'd say is keep that age gap in mind. the age gap at that age is HUGE.  i am going through this, with different issues, with my 3.5 year old. he is currently being evaluated by the school system.  im pretty sure your school system would have to have your child evaluated to see what's going on and it should be free.   that's how it was in ny and mass.  not sure about where you are but i think it's pretty standard.   i would call the school and get a referral from them.   also, if you feel something is wrong, get it checked out.   i have always thought there was something a little off with my boy and since he has started school it's been proven right.  
good luck and def. ask your ped and get the school district in for an eval!!!!

[vahsing]

I have heard many people have had success with the Feingold program/diet in improving behavior.  It's something that you can try for a week and see how it goes.  The fundamentals involve not giving your child foods with lots of fake stuff.