post rape dificulty climaxing

[20something]

I married an amazing young woman this year, and I have a significant challenge in the bedroom.
She was raped as a young teen before I met her, and was "treated" by a psychologist/therapist or counselor who told her that she probably would never be able to orgasm. and now, she believes it. She tells me that it's not important to her, but It's very important to me. We have a terriffic relationship apart from the physical aspect, and I am a patient man, but I refuse to believe that I cannot and will never be able to please her sexually. It is my goal, and I need a little guidence from the psych dept.
Mine is a 2-part question:
Q#1: Is her dysfunction a typical problem for women who have been raped, or is it possible that the power of suggestion has left her unable to climax?
Q#2: Do you believe she could orgasm if she felt totally safe, or should I take her at her word that "It doesn't matter" and give up?

any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[tlh777]

she needs to get more therapy.maybe you both should go together.their is no physical reason why she shouldn't be able to orgasm.

http://en.allexperts.com/q/Rape-Counseling-1570/Rape-2.htm

[tlh777]

she needs to get more therapy.maybe you both should go together.their is no physical reason why she shouldn't be able to orgasm.

http://en.allexperts.com/q/Rape-Counseling-1570/Rape-2.htm

[20something]

Well, she definately needs to see a DIFFERENT therapist. I know it's not a physical reason. We'll probably go together after we're both home from Iraq. That's a good Idea. Thank you.

[tutudesu123]

first of all let me start by saying im very sorry for what happened to your wife....im 25 years old now. i was raped at 12 and this man also took my virginity....im not ashamed to talk about it, the next time i had sex i was about 14....i never had therapy...and i was also never able to have an orgasm....i experienced my first orgasm at 19, with the man im with today....rape is something that is very hard to overcome, no therapy is ever going to change the fact that it happened...i feel bad that the therapist she did have messed with her head....my advice to you is, be there for her, make her feel safe....and when you are being intimate, listen to her needs, try new things, she might not even know what she likes, after a tramatic thing like that, its hard. things that were so easy before change, when something like that happens, it changes you completely....in every way not just sexually...so just be there for her and listen to her, she needs to know it wasnt her fault and not all men are like that, keep her safe.....hope i helped.....after experiencing the same thing i would hope i was able to at least help one person.....