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Sexuality & Relationships (Expert Forum)
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Answered by
Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D. - Sexuality, family, Sexual Identity
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by violet50, Dec 17, 2007 01:46PM
this is kind of embarrasing i have a baby and my boyfrined and i are having sex constantly but i have never had an orgasm why is that?
how can i have one and how can i help him get me to have one
i enjoy being with him but i would like to experince what an orgasm
feels like,and he wants me to also have one but dosent know how to do or what to do please help me
how can i have one and how can i help him get me to have one
i enjoy being with him but i would like to experince what an orgasm
feels like,and he wants me to also have one but dosent know how to do or what to do please help me
Doctor's Answer
by Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., Dec 21, 2007 08:36PM
, Dec 21, 2007 08:36PM
To: help
i have noted some of the other responses-- but having an orgasm when you have never had one takes a bit of time for some people.
In general, having intercourse is not the best or at least the easiest way to have an orgasm.
Orgasms generally involve the clitoral area- that is the little " button" that is at the top of where the lips join-- the "spine" of the button-- if you feel what is back of it between two fingers and the area around the opening of the vagina where the clitoral nerves come down.
Usually, orgasm is best achieved by touching- or oral sex - or using a vibrator in the area of the clitoris ( "button") the spine of the clitoris or around the opening. You need to use lubrication to help glide over the areas which can be very sensitive..- you need to play with touching them to see what feels best- and keep touching them as the feeling persists and not stopping until you feel almost convulsive waves of intense pleasure- with an immediate relaxation of sexual interest afterwards- That is an orgasm- and it just takes a little practice with hands or mouth or vibrator to get one!
In general, having intercourse is not the best or at least the easiest way to have an orgasm.
Orgasms generally involve the clitoral area- that is the little " button" that is at the top of where the lips join-- the "spine" of the button-- if you feel what is back of it between two fingers and the area around the opening of the vagina where the clitoral nerves come down.
Usually, orgasm is best achieved by touching- or oral sex - or using a vibrator in the area of the clitoris ( "button") the spine of the clitoris or around the opening. You need to use lubrication to help glide over the areas which can be very sensitive..- you need to play with touching them to see what feels best- and keep touching them as the feeling persists and not stopping until you feel almost convulsive waves of intense pleasure- with an immediate relaxation of sexual interest afterwards- That is an orgasm- and it just takes a little practice with hands or mouth or vibrator to get one!
Member Comments (4)
by trueblue30, Dec 17, 2007 10:40PM
To: violet50
I'd totally recommend purchasing the Hitachi Magic Wand. While you're both getting ready to have sex use it on your clitoris and I'm pretty sure you'll experience an orgasm.
by LaurenMB, Dec 19, 2007 02:52PM
To: violet50
This is a crazy recommendation but trust me... Get some time alone away from the baby and you and your man get drunk together. U are probably going to get horny.. Good. And just let loose with your man. I had my orgasm with oral sex. Try it!!
by coolkabir_khan, Dec 20, 2007 02:33AM
To: violet50
As suggested before get some time alone from the baby. Take enough time for foreplay, let him tease your clit a lot by tongue or hand does not mater. Then once you are ready ready go for it. I have made orgasms this way, so I think it should work for any human.
