need more information on herpes

[suzanna1]

can herpes 2 spread from kissing ? can i ever have oral sex and how do i know when to have sex if i dont ever have breakouts that i can notice.. i just dont get how you can have herpes but no signs of herpes.. to me thats like having a yeast infection but no yeast.. i dont get it ... im so frustrated because i have a million and one questions..

i am a please as well as a taker in bed.. i give head and like head being givin to me.. thats a big part of my sex life.. but to just only be able to have sex..  regular sex and nothing else.. someone help me.. i dont know what to do     is my only hope   find someone with herpes like me and then we can be happily ever after with herpes..    

if anyone can help answer that question  please do!!

[waringblender]

There are many diseases and disorders where people don't have symptoms. One is hypertension (high blood pressure). Doctors can measure your blood pressure with a cuff, and then they can put you on medication if it's high, but there are not really symptoms of high blood pressure, although HBP itself can cause other problems, like strokes and stuff.

Why do you think you can't give and receive oral sex because you have herpes? That's not true! If you yourself have herpes, the only time it's a bad idea to allow your partner to give you oral sex is when you have noticeable symptoms (either an overt sore or lesion, or itching/burning/tingling symptoms, often coming on before a sore).  If you don't have these symptoms, then  a person can go down on you and it is considered relatively safe. The risk is low enough that they really needn't worry about it. If you have herpes on your mouth, then you don't want to give head to your partner. Otherwise, you are fine to have oral sex.

If your partners get tested and don't have  the same type of herpes as you, consider using medication to protect them. You don't say what type you have, though.