Attraction to women

[elisa931]

Hi Docter,  I have been married for 23 years to a man who has a disabllity, He was physically abusive in the past  and I have been a caregiver for him. Also I was sexually abused while I was recovering from a myomectomy... by a deacon in my former church last year.   I havent had sex in 18 years and feel a strong attraction to women now.   I am a moral person with high values. but the attraction doesn't seem to go away. Should I explore this matter further?  
I wanted a divorce but he doesn't want one.   I really don't know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

                                                        

[scot120]

I was surfing around a few forms and came across  your topic . I believe the main cause of lesbian life styles are abusive men .Women are intimate  and caring and to many men are dominating a** holes . I can understand dissatisfaction with men , but not all of us men are abusive .Don't give up on church because of one hypocrite . Don't cross a line that you will regret .

[SeriousSam]

One other thing remember fantasies are usually better than reality. And actually if you look at the stats lesbian couples have as much domestic abuse as other couples, maybe more.

[winwun]

Sam is right, there are lots of men out there who are willing to go slow with you, but don't try to take unfair advantage of your situation  --  you have to work at it, also.

Don't worry a lot about "crossing a line"  --  the crossing isn't an irrevocable leap, if you don't like it, just "cross back".

Perhaps there is some truth to be considered in the old saw that "Only a woman knows what a woman needs"  --  as a man I wouldn't know, but it sounds reasonable.

Choose the proper venue for seeking a proper mate  --  the man you are looking for isn't likely to be found in the local bar, at NASCAR events, or dirt bike rallys, if you get what I mean.

The best of luck to you, and let me assure you, when you find the "right" man, it will be the most wonderful and precious event of your life.

[jml1986]

I would say that if you are unhappy with the marriage then you need to settle that first. Jumping into another relationship, man or woman would not be the best thing to do. You may very well be interested in women, but it is just not the time to go there.

[mr.lucky66]

Maybe your bad experiences are why you have these sort of  thoughts. It's not something to be taken lightly, homosexuallity. all the best