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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
My 5yr old son and my Boyfriend of almost 1yr
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My 5yr old son and my Boyfriend of almost 1yr
by LizRod78, Jan 07, 2008 09:04AM
My ex and I separated ever since my son was a year old and from that time to the time I met my boyfriend my son never saw me with anyone. He is having a difficult time excepting him and giving my boyfriend a hard time. He never listens to my boyfriend when he talks to him and calls him names like looser and says mom why is he here. These are very hurtful things and I don't know what to do, I try to talk to him and say why are you saying these things that he's a good guy and that he wants to be your friend. And all he says is i'm sorry mom and I love you.
I have a feeling that he feels threatened because he is taking time away from him, since he was used to me being home all the time and him being the only "man" in the house. But my boyfriend is getting tired and he's really trying and we end up fighting because he feels like he can't be with me if my son is not going to accept him, but I know that in time he will get better, what can I do with my son or say that will help him accept my boyfriend?
Please help.
Thank you.
I have a feeling that he feels threatened because he is taking time away from him, since he was used to me being home all the time and him being the only "man" in the house. But my boyfriend is getting tired and he's really trying and we end up fighting because he feels like he can't be with me if my son is not going to accept him, but I know that in time he will get better, what can I do with my son or say that will help him accept my boyfriend?
Please help.
Thank you.
Member Comments (1)
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., Jan 07, 2008 09:44AM
, Jan 07, 2008 09:44AM
This is a big change for your son, and it is understandable that it will take some time to make the adjustment. So it requires both patience and understanding, on your part and on the part of your firend. Now, that does not mean that you should permit your son to be rude. It's one thing to express his concern or dissatisfaction. It's another thing to be rude. Let your son know that his opinion is going to be respected, but that you also expect him to treat your friend and other people well. It is not reasonable to call your friend names, and you should set a frim limit on that behavior and time him out if he does it. Your son is entitled to his feelings or perception about your friend, but that does not mean he can express his feelings or perceptions in mean ways.
