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dont know what to do.
by cella1, Jan 10, 2008 12:45PM
my 17 year old son has had some problems in the past...he became addicted to pain killers after being hit by a car in 06...he has been in and out of rehabs,,,he recentley came home to live with me again in November of 07....he has been doing great, staying away from drugs..in my eyes doing good...my husband, my sons stepfather cant get past the fact my child stole from him 2 years ago and hates him...he caught my son smoking a cigar last Saterday outside the house and freaked out on him, got in my sons face they pushed each other and before I even knew what had occured my husband had his bags packed and at his friends house.....well he ended up staying and not moving out but he hasnt spoken nearly 2 words to me since...
I dont know what to do..I cannot be put in the position to choose between my husband and my son as odviousley I will never abandon my child.
someone please help.
I dont know what to do..I cannot be put in the position to choose between my husband and my son as odviousley I will never abandon my child.
someone please help.
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cella, it does sound like you're being asked to choose, and I think you've made the right decision. Your son needs you, he's doing well in your care, you will NEVER regret choosing him over your husband.
And maybe the friend will shake some sense into your husband and he'll change. If not, you're making the right decision by choosing your son.
If you love your husband and have a good marriage with him you have to weigh that in addition to your relationship with your son.
To be honest with you I do not see this as a step-parent issue. I had lots of problems growing up and when I was 15 I stole $80.00 from my parents and ran away. My father was unable to forgive me for years. When I was 25 I called the bank asked how much interest would have been earned on $80.00 if it had been put in a savings account the year I stole it. I don't remember how much it was, not much, but I approached my Dad gave him the money plus interest and it was only after that he could forgive me.
If one of my husband's children stole from him he would never forgive them. I know my husband.
Your child will be long gone having a life of his own while you and your husband will still be together.
Do you really want to push him away?