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6 yr old needs help
by Drumwidow, Jan 11, 2008 05:18AM
Let me start by saying I know we need help but we can't get in anywhere till March. My 6 almost 7yr old daughter is having alot of problems. I get notes and phone calls from her teacher on an almost daily basis. My mother who used to take my older kids for weekend visits to her house will not take her. She just can't handle her. (She does not know that her siblings had this treat and she doesn't due to a large age difference). I am at my wits end here. I have dealt with alot in the past such as my oldest (20) has severe learning disabilities, my 18yr old had adhd issues and probably still does (he seems to be self medicating and I have an appoint for him at the same place but not until March. My point is I have dealt with alot of different things in the past but her behavior is seriously out of control and I am losing control over any situation involving her. Even playing a board game or reading has become a major issue. In the meantime I need help!!!!! I will describe the behaviors below.
She has major anger issues. Whenever she gets mad she will throw a tantrum for hours and I am not exaggerating. She has gotten so bad she throws up. I will not give her attention during this if I can help it. I put her in a back room and tell her she can come out when she calms down but she is not going to disturb and upset the entire family with this. These tantrums can be triggered by anything. Having it happen in public has now become a more common problem and outside of leaving quickly I don't know what else to do. But, then we are again giving her control over the situation. She is hitting her older brother, father and myself. She has not hurt her little brother but I am afraid that may be next.
She steals and lies all the time. She will steal from family members, stores. anyone that has something she wants. I have taken her back to the store to tell them what she had done. She seems very sorry but it has done nothing to stop the behavior. So far we have had no reports of her stealing from school but it is just a matter of time. I have to pat her down before we leave a store anymore. She will lie about anything. It doesn't even have to be important. Eventually she will tell me the truth because she knows I know when she is lying.
The disrespect to myself, her father (we are happily married and he is very much involved with her), and anyone else has gotten so bad that people are now staying away from her which is causing her to feel very bad about herself and angry which triggers all new problems.
She is very destructive. I can't even imagine the thousands of dollars worth of stuff she has destroyed over the last 2-3 yrs. From writting with sharpie on the doors to using scissors and cutting up my sofa. I am scared of what is going to be next.
She also seems to get stuck on something. If her pencil needs sharpening or she has one of her frequent (and convienently timed) stomach aches she will stand there and just repeat it over and over again. You can't distract her or redirect her EVER! Her teacher is having a real hard time with this. While she is being punished or she is in a tantrum (more like a rage) she will repeat things over and over till you are pulling your hair out IE: I want to watch cartoons. over and over and over again.
She is like wild woman!! Bouncing off walls does not even come close to describing what we go through. I at first was thinking adhd because this is above and beyond any type of normal but academically she is doing great.
She has stated many times that she hates herself and she hits herself and this really scares me, She is not even 7 yet and to feel this way already just about breaks my heart. I am not an inexperienced mom here. She is my 3rd out of 4 and before anyone asks this all started before I got pregnant with my son. I know normal and not so normal behavior for a child and is off the charts for not so normal. I don't know where to turn but I do know for my sanity and her emotional well being I can't wait till March before I do anything.
She has major anger issues. Whenever she gets mad she will throw a tantrum for hours and I am not exaggerating. She has gotten so bad she throws up. I will not give her attention during this if I can help it. I put her in a back room and tell her she can come out when she calms down but she is not going to disturb and upset the entire family with this. These tantrums can be triggered by anything. Having it happen in public has now become a more common problem and outside of leaving quickly I don't know what else to do. But, then we are again giving her control over the situation. She is hitting her older brother, father and myself. She has not hurt her little brother but I am afraid that may be next.
She steals and lies all the time. She will steal from family members, stores. anyone that has something she wants. I have taken her back to the store to tell them what she had done. She seems very sorry but it has done nothing to stop the behavior. So far we have had no reports of her stealing from school but it is just a matter of time. I have to pat her down before we leave a store anymore. She will lie about anything. It doesn't even have to be important. Eventually she will tell me the truth because she knows I know when she is lying.
The disrespect to myself, her father (we are happily married and he is very much involved with her), and anyone else has gotten so bad that people are now staying away from her which is causing her to feel very bad about herself and angry which triggers all new problems.
She is very destructive. I can't even imagine the thousands of dollars worth of stuff she has destroyed over the last 2-3 yrs. From writting with sharpie on the doors to using scissors and cutting up my sofa. I am scared of what is going to be next.
She also seems to get stuck on something. If her pencil needs sharpening or she has one of her frequent (and convienently timed) stomach aches she will stand there and just repeat it over and over again. You can't distract her or redirect her EVER! Her teacher is having a real hard time with this. While she is being punished or she is in a tantrum (more like a rage) she will repeat things over and over till you are pulling your hair out IE: I want to watch cartoons. over and over and over again.
She is like wild woman!! Bouncing off walls does not even come close to describing what we go through. I at first was thinking adhd because this is above and beyond any type of normal but academically she is doing great.
She has stated many times that she hates herself and she hits herself and this really scares me, She is not even 7 yet and to feel this way already just about breaks my heart. I am not an inexperienced mom here. She is my 3rd out of 4 and before anyone asks this all started before I got pregnant with my son. I know normal and not so normal behavior for a child and is off the charts for not so normal. I don't know where to turn but I do know for my sanity and her emotional well being I can't wait till March before I do anything.
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Additionally, you said you can't see someone til March. If the situation is that desperate, maybe you could go to an ER locally with your daughter to get more urgent treatment, or call her regular dr and be persistent indicating that the problem is urgent and that her own safety is at risk.
i have a six yr old daughter that hits herself in the face when she gets mad and gets really loud in public to get attention. i to am looking for ansewers. in your case, i was wondering have you had her tested for autisim. i have a friend whos son does that and he is autistic. i hope you find help soon. i know what it feels like to love your child but not like them and thats an awful feeling.
sencerly,
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