Social Anxiety/Marrige Over??

[Ronnie_39]

Hi i am 39 years old have just split up with my husband of 10 years i have had social anxiety since i was 18 years old. Basically i feel my life is over i read and see everywhere to rely on friends when a marrige is over -i don't have any not one single one because of social anxiety.As soon as i talk to someone i feel as if my head is shaking my mouth goes funny and i can't smile right how sad!! Im not like this in fron of family but i have no brothers or sisters just mum and dad who live in a different country. I am so depressed i just want to drink and then sleep all the time but i can't evn do that properly! I am also hyperventilationg all the time.which is horrible i feel 89 not 39.

I know i will never have any friends or someone to talk things over with and at my age that is the hard bit to take my husband was my whole life and now he's gone so is the rest of my life

I really don't know what to do i don't see the point of carrying on

[tabingins911]

Hey there!  No your husband was not your WHOLE world.  Find a nice church to go to.  Get outside and take a walk when the weather is nice.  Volunteer at your local animal shelter.  Lots of sweet animals there that need a bit of love.  Do you like to read?  Do you like movies or TV?  Do you like music?  Listen to the radio.  Listen to the birds singing.  Watch the squirrels scamper up and down the trees.  Talk to me.

[dyblue]

   Your letter is so touching to me because my husband left me too.  Mine was very mean to me so I find strenghth in hating him at the moment left 2 special needs kids as well .  He has his own place now and I'm moving into a new apartment a project.  I fell a little better now as I have to come to accept he doesn't find happiness with me in fact he looks at me with disdain.  I  am 45 and I have 2 friends and concider myself lucky I'm not a social butterfly and am not really into having a lot of aquaitences and have learned people are very judgemental but not nearly as hard as I was being on myself.  There just people too and we don't cliclk with everyone you will but you have to beleive in yourself  by  yourself just like me.  We are our own worst ememy and don't have to live like that.   Get busy living or get busy dying I feel free now that my husbands gone.  You will too it is time to re invent ourselves, there is joy in the little things in  life .  I'm on antidepressant and they work for me try anything you have to to live.  Peace to your soul, Blue.

[jo929]

I have been through this and was left with 3 kids to raise but i just kept on my work i guess saved me also do you work if not please think of doing something for the elderly i am quite sure that you know they would love a person to visit with try to get to the ones with no family and low income they are just like you so lonely when i had time i would do things for them it will make you a happy person when you help someone else also you wont have the time to brood also it will help your self esteem get a book and  build up your self confidence but get out and do something this is not the end of your life. i know it is hard but dont ever let him know how he has hurt you get out and get on with your life talk to a stranger go to a group therapy but dont feel sorry for yourself there are to many sick people out there that really feel like there life is gone think of this as a new beginning  lots of luck   jo.