unable to orgasm

[Karma2008]

I am 32 and I have been unable to orgasm via penetration.  I have to use a clitoral stimulator or play with myself during sex.

I have now become frustrated with this practice and it has caused problems in my sexual life with someone I recently met.  He ended the relationship because he wasn't comfortable with not being able to get me to orgasm without oral or me playing with myself.

Am I the only one with this problem?  What can I do?

[Jennifer375]

its not your problem then, its his.... normal female physiology makes it much less easy to orgasm without clitorial stimulation, which is why in some countries women are cirucumsized, to remove that stimulation. Its fairly uncommon to be able to orgasm with only penatration for the vast majority of women because the tighest bundle of nerves are found in the clit not in the vagina. (biologially that makes sense too since babies come from there and it hurts plenty without the addition of lots of internal nerves on the surface such as the clitorus has)

You dont need to do anything except for find a guy without this hang up. Its his problem not yours, you were physically made to work that way for a reason, to get the greatest amount of satisfaction with the least amount of negative aspects. Apparently your last fella was just insecure and inexperinced.

*with apprication* Jennifer

[Karma2008]

Thank you so very much.  Having read your response made me smile and feel much better.

[Jennifer375]

Glad to help Karma, thats what were here for,, I hope you decide to stick around, because this is a great site for helping ourselves by helping each other.

*Bows in respect and apprication*      Jenn

[Bonita_Linda]

Jen's RIGHT. I have a boyfriend who gets turned on when I play with myself.

[Wallus]

That's when I had my first one with sex! It is way rare for a women to have orgasims during intercourse till they are much older. That is what fore play is all about. Penetration should be the last thing you do. I do not know why women do not know this. I listened to a sex therapist on NPR and got all my information from there. So much goes into it: right guy, releasing yourself to pleasure and so on. I had too much sex when I was a teenager and developed this idea in my subconscious that sex was the pleasure of men. I just wanted to be wanted. Why do you think there are so many vibrators out there if women could just as easily get it from men. Have a glass of wine, not too much, and spend the first half an hour making out and touching each other. This will help so much. If he does not want to do this for you, then you should look elsewhere. Real men are willing to do anything to please a women. It makes them feel good and it should. Sex is great when you are in love. Practically they do have vibrating **** rings available on the internet.