5 YEAR OLD STEPDAUGHTER WITH A BAD MOUTH

[rebbecca]

hi everyone, i have a 5 year old stepdaughter who is saying the F word, putting her middle finger up at my 8 year old son. my son has been complaining about this since sunday when she came from her moms house. yesterday i finally seen and heard her do it. i was shocked!!!!!!! i am also having a big problem with her lying about anything and everything, from brushing her hair to saying the F word. i make her go to her room for 5 min but it is still going on. i am not sure what else to do, any suggestions would be great!!!!!!!

[rebbecca]

there is one other thing also, this past saturday, my husband her father told  her to go upstairs in her room and get dressed with the door shut. for at least 20 minutes bri called for her dad to go up to her room. and hubby just told her over and over again to get dressed b/c we were getting ready to leave. finally i went upstairs to check on her, needless to say i almost throw up!!!!!!!!!! she was laying on her bed naked yelling for her dad when i opened the door, shock i didnt say anything and shut the door fast. i stood there for a minutes think what the hell she was doing, and told her to get dressed now through the door!!!!!!!!!! i went down stairs and told my husband, he was shocked and sickened all at the same time. we dont understand why she did this, the only time my husband has seen her naked was to wash her hair and that takes seconds, and now after this he refuses to even go in there.
we have her one week on and one week off, joint custody. we dont have that in our home for her to see and things sexually is ever done around her, but i am not sure at her moms.
from the f word to middle finger and now this i really dont know what were going to do!!!!! please some suggestions please!!!!!

[natashalo8]

girl, it sounds like your husband needs to have a littl echat with her mother!!! this child is obviously being exposed to some things she definitely should not be at her age. it doesn't necessarily mean that her mother is exposing her to this. if she goes to a day care that could be a possibility.

i worked at a daycare for 2 years and i was shocked at some of the things i observed and heard from the children there.  i had a 2 year old littl eboy tell me one day that he was riding his tricycle to go pick up some pills!!! (he was riding a tricycle in the gym area and telling us bye. i asked him where he was going and that was the response i got)

you are right to be concerned. she is picking these things up from someone or something. if you guys can't get the mother to cooperate i would strongly advise maybe seeking a child psychologist. good luck! i wish you the best on this!

[rebbecca]

thank you for ur response, she doesnt go to a daycare, but she is around alot of people at her moms house that arent the best of role models. and yes ur right my husband does need to talk to her about it but thats out of my hands. i have tried talking to the mom and it have ended up in a yelling match over something stupid. so i dont even try anymore.

[natashalo8]

so have you found any absolution on this yet? i sure hope so. it breaks my heart to hear about a child who may be exposed to something harmful!

[rebbecca]

my husband did say something to her mom about the middle finger and the f word and her mom said that it was my 8 year old sons fault. my son knows matter, and i have never had a problem out of my son with bad language thank god!!!! and she said well bri didnt get it from my house.
my mother in law called me the other day and asked if i thought someone was sexually abusing her at her moms house, i have also thought that for a few years now, and yes i called CPS and they done nothing, they did tell me that b/c i am the stepmom that i just starting ****, i was pretty shock but thats the goverment for u!!! i really dont know what else to do!
and then on top of all of this bri came over sunday, sick as usual. so we had to take her to the drs monday, she was sent home early from school on tuesday, and her mom had nerve to call and say that we never took her to the drs. and then today she didnt go to school either. but what pisses me off about this is she was sick at her moms and she didnt take her to the dr she waits until we get her so we can take her to the dr. after she had been sick for 2 day before she even came to our house.
i just dont know what to do anymore!!!!!

[natashalo8]

have you guys considered going to court and trying to gain sole custody and seek that her mom only gets weekend visitation? i can't believe CPS said that to you! they should at least look into it. i tell you what, if you found out later down the road and God forbid you do, that she was being molested, i would file the biggest law suit that town has ever seen with CPS. that pisses me off!

[rebbecca]

me and my husband have talked about it, but i really think that he is holding back b/c he doesnt want a big war. but i told him that it is ur daughters safety that comes first not everyone elses feelings. and ur right hell would break lose if it is true b/c i will make sure that everyone knows congressman, ect.
i truely feel that bri would have a much better life with us. b/c we want her here, her mom on the other hand wants a babysitter 24/7 and the taxes at the end of the year, it is really sad.
thanks for the chats