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lema
by lema, Feb 28, 2008 03:51PM
Hi, I really need some help.. I cant seem to control my 16 year old brother he going out of control. He is hanging aroung with the wrong crowd, smoking and drinking, coming home late and now he is lacking in his college work, he has missed college several times and now the college dnt want to keep him on.. he wont tell us why he misses college, he dnt tell us whats bothering him, but i know he isnt with the right peopel he was never like this at all, the last 2 months I have seen a dramatic change in him,I have spoken to him several time and he keeps on promising me that he will change and sort himself out. I really dont know what to to and its stressing me out. pleasecan you give me a solution to my problem. thank you
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If you haven't involved your parents yet, now's the time to do it. They need to be aware of what's going on. I think this is probably more than you can handle.
Most kids do have kind of rebel and go a little wild at the first taste of freedom, but you don't want your brother to indanger himself. And if he's failing college, I'm sure your parents aren't pleased if they're paying for that. We gave our son a laptop computer for his high school graduation with one stipulation. He gets to keep it as long as he doesn't flunk out or drop out of college. If he does, the laptop is ours. It makes a good incentive for him to stay in college.
It's good that he has a caring sister. I hope he will appreciate that. Take care.
For your own sake, you must decide what you can do and then accept that you have done all you know how. Keep trying, but do not blame yourself because you are doing all you know how. Sometimes, others do not want our help and all we can do is continue to offer. Your parents should be made aware and you should not carry this burden alone.