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Bad in Preschool Not at home
by confussed_mom, Mar 06, 2008 07:17AM
Hello I am new here. I really need some help. My son is just turned three years old in January. Right before his birthday he started a new preschool because of a job change I had. At the old school there was a mix of races and nationalities, and now at this school he the only one of his race. I don't know if this is a problem because I thought kids this young didn't know the difference, but it could be the teachers that is making the difference. Anyway, I had recieved a bad report from his old school once in one year when he went from the infant class to the two year old class that he hit someone. After that I did not recieve anymore reports about him.
Since this new school I have recieved about thirty reports that he spit, hits, and throws toys as the teachers and a kids. When I first recieved the written reports, I would ask who the teachers were and nobody was around to tell me, I only got answers like, "well I was here this morning." The problem that concerns me more is that he does not seem this terrible at home. Yes, he is the only child, but when he visits his cousins he plays well with them. In the past several weeks when visting his cousin I saw him spit for the first time, and I popped him for it.
I was confronted by his teacher this morning who asked if I talked to my son, and I said yes. Then, with a slight smile the whole time, she started to vividly tell me how he spits at her and how other kids are afraid of him and how its now everyday that he is out of control. It really bothered me that she was laughing because I do not see the humor in this situation at all. I know this is not normal behavior. When speaking with I ask my did you do these things. At first he would say that someone (he gave me a name) hit him. I asked if this was a child and he said yes, but I just found out yesterday that it was actually a teacher. Yesterday he also said another teacher cut him with a knife but said she was sorry. On both occassions I repeatedly asked him the questions to see if he would give me the same answer.
I have cried so much over not knowing what to do. I was in an abusive relationship and wondering if that have everything to do with it. Is it my son? Is it the teachers and him being different that EVERYONE else in the class? Should I spank my son at three? Should I change preschools? Should he see a child psychiatrist? Please any help would be great.
Thanks,
Confussed_Mom
Since this new school I have recieved about thirty reports that he spit, hits, and throws toys as the teachers and a kids. When I first recieved the written reports, I would ask who the teachers were and nobody was around to tell me, I only got answers like, "well I was here this morning." The problem that concerns me more is that he does not seem this terrible at home. Yes, he is the only child, but when he visits his cousins he plays well with them. In the past several weeks when visting his cousin I saw him spit for the first time, and I popped him for it.
I was confronted by his teacher this morning who asked if I talked to my son, and I said yes. Then, with a slight smile the whole time, she started to vividly tell me how he spits at her and how other kids are afraid of him and how its now everyday that he is out of control. It really bothered me that she was laughing because I do not see the humor in this situation at all. I know this is not normal behavior. When speaking with I ask my did you do these things. At first he would say that someone (he gave me a name) hit him. I asked if this was a child and he said yes, but I just found out yesterday that it was actually a teacher. Yesterday he also said another teacher cut him with a knife but said she was sorry. On both occassions I repeatedly asked him the questions to see if he would give me the same answer.
I have cried so much over not knowing what to do. I was in an abusive relationship and wondering if that have everything to do with it. Is it my son? Is it the teachers and him being different that EVERYONE else in the class? Should I spank my son at three? Should I change preschools? Should he see a child psychiatrist? Please any help would be great.
Thanks,
Confussed_Mom
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