is this normal?

[lucy28016]

i'm 43 yrs. old , my boyfriend is 46. we have sex ,everyother night. my problem is , i don't care for it anymore. i just do it because of him. is this normal? lack of desire at this age ?

[jml1986]

I don't think it is normal. I would say that there is probably a reason for it, such as a medication you are on, or you are going through menepause or something else. I would talk it over with my ob/gyn.

[wanabfre]

i think that is a pretty rigid schedule ,why does it have to be every other night and does he count days if you happen to miss. you have freedom to do with your body what you want as well as what you may not feel like doing. you may be going thru a change and if that is upsetting or difficult to deal withfor him i think maybe he needs to see a dr. do not be coerced into sex, it won`t be love justwhat he thinks is or maybe you think of as duty

[RailHead]

I also agree that this sounds like a schedule rather than a mutual feeling by both parties.  This frequency may be cause for some lack of interest at this stage of your life.  Of course, men and women are both subject to a variety of influences such as medications, stress, work, and so on that should be checked out.

[snippets69]

She has freedom to do with her body what she wants, but a male NEEDS sexual contact.  It's not some type of option.  It sounds like you're doing the best you can for him.  And that's great.

What's not great is that you're not getting enjoyment out of it.  Is there something about HIM that's turning you off?  Or something you might want him to do that would turn you on?

That being said... Is the every other day thing a schedule? Or did you mean "LIKE every other day"? If it's a schedule type thing, that definitely is a situation that should change.

[lucy28016]

thank you for all your advice.
i'm do get some enjoyment out of it ,
but it has become a  schedule.
and yes he does notice when we miss a day.
but it's o.k. i do it for him. it keeps him happy,  
and at home, he doesn't go looking for it elsewhere.
i think.. he better not anyway .!! ; ) later guys and thanks again