4 year old boy lots of anger

[water4buddha]

I have a son who just turned 4 he is an only child.  When he is angry he acts like he would use something as a weapon or acts as if he would squeeze my face if he could.  He slams doors and throws things and yells at the top of his lungs.  Today he threw a bottle of water at my computer soaking everything because he wanted a snack and I told him it was dinner time.  Mostly he is an awesome and empathetic child.  but sometimes......

I am sure he gets part of it from me because I have done the same things and work real hard not to let my anger get the best of me.  Can't teach him to deal with something that I have a hard time with too.  Any suggestions

[Kaylee55]

Don't be too hard on yourself we all struggle with anger from time to time.  Some how our children seem to bring out the worst in us at times.  I too struggle with staying calm when my 4 year old screams at me or throws a outright temper tantrum.  I found the best way to keep him calm is to remain calm myself.  They also feed off of our emotions and the sound of our voice.  I have to work really hard not to use a voice that sounds angry or frustrated because that makes him more frustrated and angry.  It's hard to stay calm and I have to work at it daily.  My son does the same things yours does.  I have been hit, kicked, scratched, punched, pinched, and had my face squeezed.  I think some children just have a harder time dealing with the strong emotions of frustration and anger.  My child is awesome as well and things are calming down a lot as he grows older and learns to control himself a little better.  Time outs work well to because it gives them a chance to calm down and you as well.  I have even put myself in a time out because I was just too angry to do anything at the time.  It sounds like are children are an awful lot alike.  Wish you the best and hang in there.

Kaylee55