erections make diapers impossible

[jenn451]

I am the mother of a very irritable 14-year-old child with Cerebral Palsy. He also is mentally retarded and has the mental capacity of an 18-month-old baby. He is incontinent must wear diapers. It is becoming increasingly impossible to fit a diaper over him due to the startling size and intensity of his erect penis that extends well past his belly button. A friend of mine who is a nurse suggested the possibility of giving him medicine to shut down the effects of puberty on his body, completely eliminating any further sexual development as well as the natural urges for sex that come with semen production. She seems to think my pediatrician will prescribe a strong testosterone suppressant that would keep him flaccid and much more comfortable and happy. Is this really a treatment I should pursue for my son?

[MJIthewriter]

I wish I could give you a good answer. I think if it involves a perminant lifetime change, he should be the one making that decision.  I'm wondering, what kind of services are avilable in your area?  In our neighborhood there's a nice independant living center where they have classes by disAbled people for disAbled people. It's a resource center, and they help connect services to help people gain more skills and coping abilities.

I'm personally not quite settled with the medical model where doctors think a pill can solve any problem... (or in this case perminantly changing your son to not experiance natural sexual urges.) Meds can help with some things, but they aren't a solution.

Before making such a decision, please seek out what other alternatives are in your area.

[alwaysbelieve]

I went through the same thing with my son. I asked his dad a few questions and ultimately decided a few things:

1) No matter what you grew up thinking...sexual arousal/release is PURELY physiological and men don't have as much control over it as they would like to believe and can/will get an erection for reasons other than a beautiful girl  :)

2) Although it seemed odd at first, simply aiming the erection down and putting the diaper up over, was not painful to my son and did the trick. (by the way...he was well endowed also)

Hope this helps