Newly Diagnosed-HPV

[JustHealthy]

I am a 20 year old woman and recently found out that I have HPV.  Unfortunatly, I had unprotected sex with my new boyfriend twice before I knew I was infected.  What are the risks that he contracted HPV from me after two times?
I know there are no HPV tests for men, but I am worried about whether or not I should tell him.  We are young (in college) and he wouldn't understand, so if I don't have to tell him then I would appreciate it.  Let me know what you recomend I do.  
Best Regards.  

[ScaredInCanada24]

Okay, from what I understand, unless the strain of HPV you are referring to causes warts then there is a very miniscule chance that the virus could affect him (penile cancer), but highly unlikely.

However, if you have warts then the chances are high (if not 100%) that he has been infected. If this is the case, telling him would be the right thing to do, but in the end it's your decision.

[ibizan]

Your guyfriend can get the HPV virus non-wart as well...there is no test for it and he could give it to another partner not using condoms.Men need to be educated on this for many know nothing about it and it is so easily spread around.If he cares anything about u he will handle it...if he reacts badly he is immature and not worth investing time or anymore of ur body in2.

[JustHealthy]

*sigh* I know.
Realistically, do you think he contracted it after only 2 short times of unprotected sex?

[mayflowers]

HPV is extremely contagious so if he doesn't have that strain, he probably got it from you.  The thing is you don't know if he has already been exposed.  If he has been very sexually active, most likely he has been.  Have a talk about hpv with him so he knows the possible consequences to his future partners (cancer).  You should still get the vaccine as it will protect from any hpv you haven't already been exposed to.

[JustHealthy]

I did get the vaccine =(

[tls83]

even though you got the vaccine it dosen't protect you from all types of hpv. just the 16 and the 18. and if i am correct i do belive if you got the vaccine after you already have it i don't think it would help because hpv can be dormat up to 8 years i do belive. if you have any other concers i would recomend you to speak with your doctor and if you need someone i know i am here and the one that knows more about it than i is iziban. she is great at this she knows all lol. she has helped me threw a difficult time where i was concerned and i know for a fact she can do the same for you if need be.

[ibizan]

thank you dear...u r really making me smile here and I need that today!so gald ur tending to biz with ur own health!

[empathy60]

Sorry to hear of your diagnosis.  But this isn't a hopeless disease and eventually you WILL be better!  Do you have a wart strain?  If you do and were actively contagious while you were having sex with him (sounds like you were), I would definitely tell him- it might be a better thing to do in case he starts showing symptoms (that would be a much less pleasant situation).  I've debated the ethics of "telling" with HPV and have really come to the conclusion (though this is only MY personal opinion) that you should tell people you exposed to the virus while you were actively contagious (i.e.: current/recent past sex partners), and after you have normal paps/are symptom free for the recommended 6+ months, I really don't see the need in having to disclose.  Again, this is only my opinion.  Since the disclosure guidelines of this disease are not clear, this is ultimately your choice and I can't tell you what to do.  I don't doubt that he's contracted HPV at this point from being sexually active, perhaps not even from you- this virus is unavoidable it seems.  Since it sounds like you were pretty actively contagious while with him, if it were me, I'd tell him.  Good luck in whatever you decide to do though.  Even if he reacts negatively, eventually there will be a point where you will NOT have to tell future partners and will be your healthy, happy self again :).