Please Help - What do I do with this child?

[Step_Parent]

I’m recently married 9 months to a woman with a child, a 7 year old girl. Now at first glance, in the dating process, the child seemed great. A normal very intelligent but spoiled 7 years old. Naturally upon getting married we laid some ground rules and she seemed to adjust rather well. That is until about 2 months ago when I started to realize she wasn’t telling us everything that would happen in school. Since then I have learned that she is a compulsive liar, curses and hits on other kids. The most disturbing thing is the fact that she asks other male students to go into the bathroom with her after which she proceeds to take her clothes off and feel up on the other student. I seriously need help because I’m at wits end with this child.

[Lezzart]

You have your hands full...and more then you bargained for huh?

The first thing I would do, is ask the school to make her see the school psychologist. If none, then ask your doctor to have her evaluated, to talk to somebody professional who will not put words in her mouth. She is not crazy, but I think she is stressed and needs allot of attention. Children sometime seem to cope very well with situations but they often keep their feelings inside. You are taking space and time from her Mom that belonged to her, you're an intruder. Of course she likes you but deep down she also hates you. Is she going to say that out loud? Of course not, because that would hurt her Mom. She wants attention, positive or negative, she just wants it. She is angry and since at that age they cannot or have a hard time expressing themselves verbally, then they do things physically. The touch is one of the first sense we developed. Mom will also need to spend some one on one time with her on a daily base for now. Just to show her that she has still her same place in the family and that she is loved...even more now since another person also loves her now...not just Mommy.

Good luck!

[rebbecca]

i think u need to get her in to see a therpist asap! a 7 year old should not be wanting a boy to go in the bathroom with her, taking her clothes off, and feeling on the other kids,that should be a big eye opener for her mom to do something now, she can get in alot of **** for that, and in return it will bite mom in the ***.
has her mom always had problems with her behavior or is it new? i think the best thing to do is sit down with her and ask her what is going on for her to acted like this.
i dont think it is ur fault for a 7 year old to be acting like this, they know right from wrong. her mom needs to do something now before something bad happens.
and with her being so sexual at a young age, with so many sickos out there, and it is sad to say but she is wanting attention were every she can get it. keep a close eye on her.
my son is a wanting to please person, and i watch him like a hawk.
good luck!!

[Agiesmom]

She's acting out for a reason.  I'm wondering if she hasn't been molested.  A counselor would be able to determine that.  Definitely seek therapy for her.