3 year old problems

[Granmama]

It seems in the last few weeks everything has changed with our granddaughter. She has always been a little girly girl. Lately her behavior has changed and my daughter and soninlaw are trying every thing to figure out what is going on. She is in day care and they are constantly calling my daughter from work, saying there is a problem with Polly. She makes up stories at home and daycare. She says she is afraid of a little boy at school and she has no contact with him, (he is two). She has decided she doesn't want to wear clothes when she is sleeping, but also complains that her clothes hurt. Throws a tantrum when my dauther is trying to dress her. As I write this, it sounds like a typical 3 year old. But the daycare seems to think she has a real problem. They question my daughter constantly about how much attention she gets at home. She does not stay at any ones house, other than grandparents. She is very well protected. I have never seen, two more devoted parents. They are worried sick, do you think the school is blowing this out of proportion and maybe are not as experienced as they are suppose to be or is this just a smart little girl working everyone to her advantage.

[RockRose]

granmama,  your two options aren't enough.  Probably it's neither of your options that the school is blowing this out of proportion or the child is working everyone over.

The other option is that she's experiencing some sensory issues and she really is upset and not making things up,  and neither is the school.  Sounds like she's got some sensory defensiveness issues,  and also is kind of developing a fear of things in her world (normal for a 3 year old to suddenly develop fears,  kind of unusual for that fear to be a younger child).  

When you characterize her as "very protected" - she really isn't protected.  She's in day care all day long where the parents really don't know what she's experiencing.  Is there any possibility that the mother can take a few years off work and stay home with her until she's ready for school?

[concerned202]

How long has she been in daycare. If not long she may not be ready for this. If for awhile maybe she has other children being "mean" to her and she doesnt understand. What about seperation anxiety? Also at this age children do complain about clothes that hurt try a size larger  maybe she needs to feel free and not confined in her regular size. My grandchild takes her clothes off at night says she is hot she is also 3 and wont wear clothes in her size they must fit loose.  Maybe a different daycare would be the answer how about a teacher that is more strict than she is used to having or she isnt getting attention at the daycare she gets at home. Remember 3 yr olds do make up some stories which is normal esp if allowed to use their imaginations and this is not abnormal. Just a thought maybe it helps.