What's My Deal?

[MomInPA]

Ok so I've been married a little over a month, and we dated for 2 years prior. The thing is, I enjoy having sex, but I only have an orgasm when I'm on top. My husband thinks he a god! Don't get me wrong, he's great in bed, and it feels good but nothing works for me. I'm afraid to tell him the truth, but I'm seriously tired of him going down on me thinking that he's doing everything right. He's a great man, and I enjoy having sex with him, but orgasms are rare for me. I'm naturally wet. I always have been. What do I do?

[whatisay]

Look, let him think he is a God what is wrong with that, he is a God at makign you feel good and then when you are ready you take over and finish, so he does give you the orgasm.  Just read the post about woman not having orgasms.  Or not having them with insertion-

Htere is no right and wrong- if he goes donw, let him have some fun, maybe he likes to do that and it is not for you- if you think he can do better giv ehim a hint- more pressure, whatworks, if he worries he is not ding the job let him know that he does great, but when it comes time fo finish, you need to be in control and on top

Talk to him about what works- experiment, do it openly and honestly and without criticisim.

Don't say, you do it wrong, say, When I orgasm I am on top, I wonder if I can orgasm in a differnt position, but we will need to work on that to get it right- see how that is not focusing on him, but you.  

[SeriousSam]

Don't lie to your husband.  Actually I should say quit lying to your husband.

Tell him you want to experiment with different moves and techniques.  Chances are if you are not satisfied 100% that it is reciprocal and instead of griping to everyone else you would do best to talk to him.

[RailHead]

Just about all married men want to please their spouses.  If you only have an orgasm when you are on top, I believe your husband would go along with this position if you stated your case.  Of course, plenty of foreplay and other positions would be done also, leading up to the final position which you favor.  So, don't be in a hurry and enjoy other things leading up to the climax.  I, for one, enjoy the comfort of being on the bottom, and it allows me to give plenty of oral attention to my wife's hanging breasts, along with being able to reach and thoroughly massage her butt cheeks

[LeDr]

I would say to tell him while you do enjoy having sex, you only get orgasms when you're on top. Be honest. It's not really fair to yourself to not say anything about it. You don't want to bruise his ego in the process..so I think the approach is what matters. Just make sure he knows what things you do like that he does and not that he is a miserable failure in bed.There's also nothing wrong with in the process of having sex/oral sex guiding him a bit to what feels good. I would think if you were getting more pleasure, it would be a turn on for him and he therefore shouldn't have a problem with it.

[cheeseball]

CLitoral stimulation is key. Thats why you orgasm when you're on top, because most likely your clitoris is being rubbed up against his body when you move.

[AMB222]

When my husband was doing things down there that I did not like I asked him one day what he liked about what I do to him and then I would tell him my favorite things I like done to me. Men get very defensive about telling them what you don't like instead tell him what you like the best.