Loss of Orgasm

[monikish]

My wife and I had been married for 10 years although for circumstance beyond our control we had been separated for almost 5 years. None of us had any active sexual partner before getting married. She has not had successful "orgasm" for a long time, perhaps over 3-4 years. Since we were living apart we didn't have as much sexual encounter. She gets sexually excited pretty easy but she just can't seem to get to the climax point and orgasm. She is afraid to let me penetrate into her since that long. I have been so far okay with it since I love her. It has gotten to a point where she has lost any desire for sexual intercoourse and now is contemplaing getting divorce.

My wife is 32, 4 years younger than me, She have had involunantary urination (holding prob) for a long time. She does take Detrophen XL frequently. I am not sure if it has any effect or she is just not satisfied with me. Any real advice, please? Thanks in advance!

[njw753]

She may be worried she will leak urine if she gets to the point of orgasm or if she pushes too hard to achieve it.  I used to have that problem until I had bladder sling surgery to fix incontinence.  I know it's hard to let go when worried about leaking urine.  I recommend she see a urologist to see if she can be helped.

[jml1986]

She really needs to see a good urolgist to have that problem fixed or she may never have a pleasureful sex life again. While it may not be the funnest thing to have done, it is alot better then worrying about leaking unine the rest of your life, and never being able to enjoy sex again.

[njw753]

Actually, the bladder sling surgery was a breeze.  I had virtually no pain, just achiness for several days.  And I immediately quit leaking.  I feel like a new woman, the freedom from worrying that I would leak has a profound effect on my life.

The hardest part was no sex for 4 weeks and no heavy lifting for 6 weeks.