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lazy step son
by yorkie8971, Apr 07, 2008 04:06PM
i just don't know what else to do to make my wife realize,if we don't do something now about our sons laziness it is going to get so much more worse. i've been married to my wife for 4 years.she has a son to a previous marriage,he is now 11 years old.My problem is i just cant get him to do anything AT ALL!!!i ask very little from him(knowing everything is just a headache to ask him)all i ask is to tidy his room once a week.he does absolutely nothing in the house he goes to school then comes home and plays xbox from 4pm until bed time and all weekend long.I have told my wife time after time that his lifestyle is not healthy(he has no friends apart from the ones he talks to on xbox live)but she defends him all the time.i am trying to get him to do sports and to respect the house by helping out a little but i get nothing from him and a wife that tells me to back off.this weekend i told him to clean his room and he never did it!!his mother will probably do it whilst he is at school today.i feel i have absolutely no respect from him as he shouts back at me when im telling him off. My wife is the best woman in the world imo, thats why i married her and i don't want to sound like im frustrated with her,she is just a great person that will do anything for anybody but i think her son takes advantage of this. any ideas?? thanks lee.
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by jml1986, Apr 11, 2008 02:01PM
My advise would be to pick your arguements. We get so wrapped up in wanting things our way sometimes that we forget that we are fighting with a child. Sounds like you and your wife need to sit down and work out some rules for him and then they need to be inforced. Just don't get caught up on the little things. I based what I required on what I called my five year plan. Basically it what that means is that I base thing on whether or not it would effect my child in five years or not. If not, I didn't fight over it. For instance, cleaning there room, not going to effect them, so no fight, just closed the door. Homework, will effect them, no exception, you will do it, I will check it and there will be no arguements. It sure saved us all a lot of fighting and a lot of frustration.
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