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paranoia

by gaz611, Apr 13, 2008 10:10AM
Tags: paranoid
Im 24 and male. I have been in a relationship for 18 now, I am paranoid that my girlfriend is sleeping with someone else. I have confronted her and she said she has never been unfaithfull to me. I belive her but then i keep making stories in my head, that she has been behind my back. She has never given me reason not to trust her. I AM Seriously paranoid and i need help.
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by diemyn, Apr 13, 2008 09:54PM
To: gaz611
If you are so distrustful that you are sabotaging the relationship, then maybe you need to take a break from being in a relationship, so you can discover and heal your own insecurities. Also, you probably shouldn't be with a girl you don't trust. People have a tendency to run things into the ground, it seems. Like, even though they aren't happy, they stay with that person until something really really horrible happens. If it's going bad for either one of you, then get out before you get really hurt or you really hurt her. These kinds of thoughts can turn into outrage pretty quick. Any body can become abusive. It would be wonderful if you were in an open and honest relationship and was able to talk about what makes you think you're unworthy or less than with your girl. My boyfriend, who later was abusive, told me that he felt I was prettier than he was handsome and that I could have anyone I wanted. He also felt he wasn't as smart as I was. I told him that I knew I was pretty and could have anyone I wanted, but that I was choosing to be with him and only him. We had lost our virginity to each other though, and it turns out sex is painful for me, so he thought I'd try to find better sex by getting a guy with a smaller **** too. So it was complicated with him. Bottom line he was insecure and needed to figure himself out, but we stayed together and by the end of it he was taken to jail for beating me. It's true what they say about if you love them let them go. It's the hardest thing in the world sometimes, but you have to put yourself first.

Love and light,
Diemyn

by gaz611, Apr 16, 2008 04:07PM
To: diemyn
thanks for your words, we have been on a break and it has been good for the both of us. I love the girl very very much and we dont want to seperate. we are going travelling to australia in 4 weeks and iam now seeking therapy. I Have devised a plan to expel thoughts of paranoia, and it does work.

by diemyn, Apr 22, 2008 03:26PM
To: gaz611
Oh, I'm so happy for you. Take care of yourself. =]

Love and light,
Diemyn
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