He's not ready for another baby & I AM!!!

[lollys_mom]

Ok, so our daughter is 3. My husband is not ready for another and this is all that I can think about. I am no longer comfortable talking about it to him because I feel let down. WHAT can I do about this????????

[alaysha]

I think you should sit down and have a long conversation about how you want more kids and maybe come up with an agreement. Like start trying in a couple months or something along those lines. Talking is really the only thing you can do... I mean you could try to get pregnant with him without him realizing it but he may feel betrayed. So I would just really listen to what he is saying as well.

[cntrygrlluvin]

yeah I'd talk to him too. Also I'd tell him how much a difference it makes to have a baby now instead of waiting years down the line... Theres no telling when he'll be comfortable with another baby.... and if he waits too long he'll probably decide not to have anymore ya know? I'd say have another one now and then get the baby stage outta the way and enjoy them being playful and just being kids!

[LosingMyMindInGA]

DO NOT attempt to "accidently" get pregnant and pray that you DON'T REALLY accidently get pregnant becuase he already knows how much you want another one and he will feel betrayed and used.  Chances are good that it will ruin your relationship.  Ask him to sit down and hear you out one last time.  Explain, the best you can, how you feel.  Ask him his reasons why he doesn't think he's ready for another one.  Try to compromise...like the other poster said...set a goal with him on when you will start ttc.  This way he wont' feel pressured to do this and you will have a specific time frame and something to look forward to.  

You also need to look deep within yourself and determine what you would want to do should he decide he does NOT want ANY more kids.  Is this something you are willing to sacrifice for the sake of your marriage or not. There are many pros and cons.  But you need to talk to him first and foremost, I mean REALLY talk...not just say you want another one and then feel let down.  Try to draw him out, get his reasoning.

[sweetangel7]

Like the other posters I agree that a deep meaningful conversation must occur.  Did you talk about children before getting married?  Did he always clearly only want one?  Or is this something that has changed since having a child?  Is he the sole financial provider?  My husband works with a guy who works like 80hrs a week to support his wife and their two babies.  His wife wants a third and he just can't do it not that he wouldn't love a third child but it is physically and financially impossible.  Perhaps it could be a money thing?  This seems like an issue that has many layers to it.  Good luck!