Heteropoic Pregnancy - ecptopic & miscarry (possiable endometriosis)

[Hannah1982]

My name is Hannah, I am 25 years old.  On 03/03 I had really bad stomach ache as I was pregnant I went to the hospital where they did a blood test.  This showed I had double the pregnancy hormone than normal. 48 hrs later another test showed my levels had dropped and had again on Friday. A scan showed baby was in my uterus. On the 7th March I had I miscarry whilst on a visit to hospital at 6 weeks, they sent me home 5 mins after with  just a large pad to put on car seat . On 9th March they also discovered I had an ectopic pregnancy.  I had a Lap on the 10th to remove my right fallopian tube.  Since then the pain in my right side is very bad not matter what pain killers they give me they don't ease it.  My belly is still very swollen.  I have been back to the hospital 4 times since my opp and they just take swabs and send me home!!  During the opp they found that my left tube and ovary were stuck to my pelvic floor. They also said my womb and liver was scared.  They said this was due to a pelvic infection i.e. STI/STD. which I and my family doctor know I’ve never had! Why am I still in agony and swollen? Doctors don't listen all they wanted to do is get my permission tp put my situation in the medical journal and not help me.  It's hard emotionally and i have been offered no help and being in agony does not help.

[PMarie63]

I don't know which city you live in, or what type of medical coverage you have, but you should make a move to another gyncologist. ASAP!! Nothing is worse than a doctor that won't listen to you.

I had a similar incident 4 years ago at age 41. My left fallopian tube was removed, my right fallopian tube is obscurred by fibroids and is wrapped around the back-side of my uterus. At that time, following the removal of my fallopian tube, I experienced INTENSE pain and swelling in my abdominal area. I developed a serious bleeding condition that resulted in the doctors concluding that even if I were to become pregnant, I would not be able to have a successful pregnancy. I can understand your concerns.

That aside, you are in pain. You are not able to extract enough information from your doctors to get an understanding of what you should be expecting at this stage of recovery post-surgically, nor what your future chances are to become successfully pregnant.

If  you can contact your insurance carrier and ask for referrals to specialists on your condition, then I suggest that you do so immediately. You may also be suffering from hormonal imbalances that can result in your emotional distress being intensified. I can say that I was completely "out of whack" for more than two years!! NOT FUN!! Plus I spent alot of time punishing myself for the loss of the baby. You may need anti-depressants, but more so, you may need talk-therapy to deal with this intensely personal loss!! Please try to help yourself towards getting some answers---from more interested persons than your current doctor(s). People, even medical professionals who should know better, can be dismissive of this type of situation. For example, my sister- who is a RN nurse- stated to me that I should "get over it" because "it" wasn't a "real baby--it was a "blob""!!??!! Yep. She did.

I have (mostly) forgiven her, but it has taken time. The fact is that family, friends, acquaintences, and your medical professionals, may at times, be dismissive of how you feel about your loss. I hope that you will find it in you to let their insensitivity roll off your back.

And don't give yourself a hard time if you feel uncomfortable with the fact that you aren't "getting over it" in a split second. It takes time. BUT don't allow yourself to wallow in grief! You must work towards moving past the loss and physical pain towards seeing yourself not as a some sort of damaged goods. You are a complete person with a lot more to give, and get out of life.

I wish you the BEST!!!

-PMarie