This patient support community is for discussions relating to teen depression, abuse, aggressive behavior, alcohol and drug abuse, anxiety, behavioral issues, fatigue, gastrointestinal problems, grief loss, parent issues, relationship problems, school issues, self-esteem, sexuality, sleep disorders, and step-families.
I'm not going to excuse your mother's behavior at all. It was absoloutly wrong. Your parents are the ones who are supposed to be there for you and protect and charish you and she didn't. She's missing out on a wonderful relationship with her daughter. How sad is that. When you think you can, I'd try and find some alone time with her and in a calm way talk to her and explain all your hurts and feeling abandoned, etc. It would be good for her to hear it if she hasn't yet. But if she still refuses to get her rose colored glasses off about her boyfriend then you need to tell her Adios and move forward with your life. Let the next step be hers' if there is a next step.
I would suggest counseling. I don't know if your dad would agree to that or not, but I think it would be good for you. If you can't afford one or your dad doesn't seem willing to do that for you then you can get free counseling from any pastor. They are trained in counseling.
You do have a lot on your plate. You are surounded by stress, it sounds like, even with your boyfriend. Try and find something just for you that you enjoy and are good at. It would be a good stress reliever for you. Take some time out just for you. Take a bubble bath, do your nails, read a good book, go for a walk. You'd be surprised at how much that can help.
Take one day at a time. And please try and find some counseling. I wish you the best. God bless.