condom broke :'(

[Sophiea18]

my name is Sophie im 18years old.. as my name may tell you.. recently the man i was with for two years (when i was aged 14-16) came back into my life. as friends.. we rekindled some old flames... he is also 18. we have both had other sexual partners during the 2 year break up period.

we were both unaware that he has herpes type lumps just above his penis. one of them has a scab over it and is larger then the others. the cluster has about 15 small bumps.. only the largest one looks like a cauliflour. the others look as though they have a pore.  

we have had intercourse about 15times since thursday. and on one occasion the condom split. there has been contact with myself and his penis. i have orally touched his penis once. and on more than one occasion the semen has touched my vagina.

we only discovered the herpes type bumps today. and have spent hours trying to research them, we are both going to the doctors tomorrow to make appointments. my biggest concerns are..

1: is it possible that these bumps have been passed to me?
(as the largest bump seems swollen/ maybe puss-y and looked as though it had bled recently).
2: is herpes treatable? is there any way of assuring that it never returns?

3:if i have herpes please say that there is a way of getting rid of it?

4: there is a man that i want to be a part of my life, that i a not currently dating, how long will i need to wait before herpes can be detected.

5: failing a cure, is there any dose of over the counter drugs i can purchase to take my life. :'(

thank you for yor time.

i am going out of my mind with worry

[arabella134]

Herpes are not curable but its treatable
but seeing a doctor would help more

[auntiejessi]

This doesn't sound at all like herpes, but sounds like genital warts.

If its genital warts, yes it could have been passed to you.  

It is treatable, but not curable.  It will however, run its course and clear from your body.  This can take up to a couple of years.

If you get warts, then they can be treated and removed, but not cured.

You do need to tell partners if this turns out to be genital warts.

I hope you aren't serious about taking your life over an std.  If that's the case, and you are serious, I would urge you to seek help for depression or anxiety or whatever it is that is bothering you.  That's a very extreme reaction to something so common.  Most people will have an std in their lifetimes.

I think he just needs to go to the doctor soon, and you can talk to your doc about the hpv vaccine.  I don't know offhand if you can get it with a recent exposure, but your doc should know.

AJ

[Sophiea18]

thank you for your responses. i am going to the nearest STD clinic at my local hospital tomorrow..

the anxiety is killing me. i have been on anitdepressants. and have attempted suicide several times before. my best friend is coming with me and she is being so supportive. i love her to bits.

i never even get sick.. iv been so careful in the past and yet he didnt know about these lumps due to his large amount of pubic hair. since i last posted he found another lump. one on his penis. it had what appeared to be a pore and looked like a large spot. it had puss in it. and he popped it like a spot.

he is also going to the clinic tomorrow.

what is the difference between genital warts and herpes??? anyone.. please.?

[auntiejessi]

They are caused by 2 different viruses.  Genital warts are caused by HPV, and herpes is caused by the herpes simplex virus.

Herpes produces sores, lesions, blisters, etc., that will heal within a week or two.  Warts can linger, and are either bumps or raised and might look like little cauilfowers.  HSV is a lifelong thing, and HPV will clear within a couple of years.

If you haven't already, you should talk to the doc about the HPV vaccine, and if you have a therapist, this would be a great time to call.

AJ

[Sophiea18]

went for the check up yesterday. and got screened for everything. turns out that it wasnt genital warts or herpes.. it is infact molluscum.. which will heal within weeks.. or a few years the most.. other than that im perfectly normal..

and soooo relieved..

:)

thank you again everyone. :)