Out of Control 5 yr old

[BrittneeP]

Hello, My five yr old (future) step-son has several behavior problems, He has been kicked out of two day cares, kindergarden and the alternative school he was placed in. We are all out of options and do not know what to do. He was originally removed from daycare about four months ago for not listening and it has been down hill from there, the teachers say he is not listening they have to repeat things to him several times. He was suspended several times for hitting students,not following directions, during reading time when everyone is on the mat he is off to the side pertending he is an animal making noise climbing on chairs, the teacher also says he wears a smirk or grin on his face when he acts up (which I do see at home). To the most serious of all which led to his expulsion hitting the teacher telling her he was going to "pee" on her to running out of the school, mind you he is five, he was placed an a alternative school(Barry Robinson Center) which we all were excited about however he lasted 2 weeks there and he begain to do the same things including running out of the building in which the removed him from the program. He lives with his mother but comes over every weekend Sat-Monday (Dennis, my fiance drops him from school each week). He states that he does not see the behavior in him at home (however he works weekends so he only gets to spend evenings and sundays with him), they (Dennis and his son's mother Kia) Have met with school physcologist and also private consulors who want to test him. Which I think is a good idea however he is strongly agianst giving a young child medication which i also agree is not the best solution. I am concened because i have a three year old son who looks up to my 5 yr old and i see the behavior difference when they are together. My fiance asks do i see the behaviorial problems and I do not as extreme as what goes in at school but he does throw fits however to me I can correct them, but now I find it harder and harder to correct the behavior. I question if it bc he only sees his father on the weekends and he has to share his time thats why I encourage for them to have time by themselves without us (my son and I), I also try to take the boys to museums and parks weekly however I was told recently by his mother not to encourage the bad behavior. So I do not know what to do.... Please Help

[FIp]

Sounds similar to my question.  Wish I had an answer for you.