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a quick question contraction and symptoms
by worried2010, Apr 22, 2008 10:05PM
Hello,
I am a 19yr old male and I am in a relationship of 2 years. I lost my virginity to my girlfriend and I have been 100% monogomous. She recently went to the doctors for a yeast infection and it turned out to be herpes. She was raped at age 15 and feels that this is where she contracted the disease. I have had it explained to me that Herpes has the ability to stay dormant for long periods of time, but four years seemed unlikely to me. In combination with the anxiety I am feeling (about her health along with whether or not I have contracted the virus) I am now wondering if infidelity may be the cause of her sudden flare up. How likely is it that my girlfriend truly did contract the virus before we were dating and it didnt show up until now? Where do I go from here?
I am a 19yr old male and I am in a relationship of 2 years. I lost my virginity to my girlfriend and I have been 100% monogomous. She recently went to the doctors for a yeast infection and it turned out to be herpes. She was raped at age 15 and feels that this is where she contracted the disease. I have had it explained to me that Herpes has the ability to stay dormant for long periods of time, but four years seemed unlikely to me. In combination with the anxiety I am feeling (about her health along with whether or not I have contracted the virus) I am now wondering if infidelity may be the cause of her sudden flare up. How likely is it that my girlfriend truly did contract the virus before we were dating and it didnt show up until now? Where do I go from here?
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You need to be tested for HSV2 to see if you are infected. If you aren't, she can use daily medication and the two of you can use condoms to keep you from getting infected in the future.
You should be aware that you have a much higher likelihood of not becoming infected by her than of contracting it from her. So there is a good chance you are not infected, but you will only know for sure with a type-specific blood test.
The infidelity issue is entirely separate, IMO. If you didn't suspect infidelity before this time, there is no reason to suspect it because of her diagnosis. Definitely discuss this with her if it's bothering you, and keep lines of communication open so that the two of you can work through this together.
She should refrain from sex until her symptoms are cleared.