accuasations !!!!

[Joy0117S]

I have two grandchildren ages 7 and 5 years I have had both of them tested per request from their teachers .The 5 year old has ADHD combined type and the 7 year old is ADD .My five year old has the most extreme Combined type .So he is on some kind of strong meds and my 7 year old is onthe same meds but not as strong . I am sick of people accusing me of DRUGING my kids  to escape dealing with them. People make me feel lower then dirt just because I am trying to help my children.I am accused of letting them be spoiled brats because I would rather drug them then teach them right from wrong .I actually had a woman one time tell i don't deserve to be raising them because all I am doing is drugging them .One told me it's my fault they are ADHD because I probably let them watch t.v. to much or play video games to much. Well none of that is true ! I don't even have a game unit in my home and as for t.v. we are very strict with how much of that they can watch as well but it really don't matter anyway because Trevor the 5 year old is so hyper he don't even give a total of 5 seconds to a television anyway.I recieved Jessey at 7 days old she was born early at 37 weeks and suffered under developed lungs and was put on a respirator but was able to come home in 7 days .She was my first Grandchild born and her Mother is bipolar and her father was n 18 y/o boyfriend that had also gotten another girl PG which yielded another daughter for him just one month after Jessey was born.So to make along story Kayla my daughter was just 16 and she decided to sign me rights to Jessey because of her extreme Bipolar it is whats best for Jeseey anyway.then three years later kayla showed up at my door with nothing but a big round belly she was PG with Trevor . Trevor's Dad had beaten her pretty good and tossed her to the road side . Kayla said it was because he had run out of drugs and was having DDt's .I took her in and got her and the baby the care they needed .Trevor was born by c-section on time but something went very wrong in the Operating room .The delivering doctor had pulled Trevor's head out of Kayla's tummy and a nurse suctioned him and he started to crythen he slipped back into the womb and he aspirated the fluids .This made him very sick and he was transported to a neonatal intensive care unit via Angel flight.He hasd one lung to collaspe and the other had formed a bubble in it he was on a risperator for two weeks in a drug induced coma. I know this because I wittnesed it !i was in the operating room.I gained coustody of him at 2 months when she left with friends one day and never came back for him .This has been almost 6 years ago now .I love them as my very own as does my Husband.All we want is whats best for them and i am so upset over all these remarks and comments about our ablilty to handle them .Do any of you get this too? Why can't people understand that these children have real HEALTH issues ? This is a mental condition not a behavioral one alone .How do you deal with these people ?

[virgogirl]

I also can feel you here!!!  My daughter is now 15, and was just diagnoised a wk ago with just the ADD.  I should have gotten her help when she was about 8yrs old, but did not because of what other people were saying(I didn't want to deal with it and was being too quick to medicate) Well after several yrs of struggling in school, and giving all my energy to this, it became overwhelming.  Finally, I followed my instincts and had her analized.  Shes on adderall, and it has done miracles,  not only at school, but her self-esteem as well.  Don't let other people fog your judgement, I did, and I feel like my daughter suffered needlessly.  All we ever want is the best for our children, and as mothers we can actually sense, deep down, whats best, don't ignore that gut feeling.  It sounds like the babies have have had a rough start,  all you can do is help them from here on out.  You know whats best, ignore the rest!!!!