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How do people with Epilepsy lead a "normal" life?
by twigey, Apr 27, 2008 01:48PM
Please help me. My son has epilepsy as a result of physical abuse from his birth father. Much of his problems I think ar attitude. He wants so despirately to find a good job, find a girl friend settle down and have a family, all of the normal things that people do. He has had so many failures that I am afraid he has developed learned helplessness. He is constantly down on himself and has no real drive. What can I do? He is going to college at present majoring in Education, he has applied for a job with "turn" who provide services for families with individuals who are homebound. Much of his problem deals with not having "street smarts". He makes comments and says things that are juvenile in nature simply because he has never developed a relationship with anyone but me. I know that I am part of the problem but how do I help him to become more independant.
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How are you? How is your son? I hope he is fine. He is very lucky to have a very supportive mother in you. People diagnosed with epilepsy face many difficulties and lifestyle changes, but a proper understanding of the disease is a very important step toward maintaining a normal life. With acceptance, he may let go of his fears and embrace what he has and his future with epilepsy. He is very lucky to have a very supportive mother in you. I think it would also be very helpful if he find a support group, people with the same situation he is in. And he can share what he feels with people who also feel the same way and have been living the same sickness like him. This way it would be easy for him to open up and do the same activities with them. One example of this is through this link: http://www.geocities.com/epilepsy911/
One good thing about this is there is also a support group for mothers like you.
With him going to college, we hope he’ll be able to develop his “street smarts” and learn to stand on his own. It is very important also to emphasize that he take his medications regularly and he has a tag which his name and his illness and contact number in case a seizure attacks.
I hope this helps. Take care and regards.