Problem talking to my boyfriend

[ni07]

I have been with my boyfriend for a very long time, 3 years, and well its seems so long cause im not that old and he is my first real boyfriend and im totally in love with him, he and i are comfortable around eachother and all but, i find it very difficult to talk to him about things because he is kind of like a know it all, and takes everything i say out of proportion its hard to talk to him about things, so i turn to writing him notes and i dont know how i can start to talk to him about things, he is emotional sometimes, and a lot of the time, he says i get smart with him, or be bitchy whatever, so i dont like to talk to him about things, and im so lost in what to say about things but we are having such problems right now, ive thought about breaking up with him, but when i tell him that i dont know about things, he gets so upset and mad and i cant stand to see him upset i love him so much  and it hurts me to feel this way please i need advice on how to talk to him, he always thinks that im being bitchy when my tone in my voice changes and i do get quite upset cause he just gets to be an *** after a while please let me know what you guys think

[ComputerGeek]

This happens between my wife and I a lot.  She tells me that she, like me, is under a lot of stress and that I should just "understand."  But it is hard to react calmly when it sounds like I am being yelled at.

My best piece of advice is for at least one of you (if not both) to remain very calm when you try to discuss something because to a guy, tone of voice (and volume) is everything.

There is nothing wrong with writing notes to each other, by the way.  My wife and I do that sometimes.

[suzi-q]

Do you mind telling how old you are?

[someoneinvabch]

you sound like my fiance and i. we have been to together for 4 years and i am young too (19). i am just now learning how important communication is. without good communication a relationship will fall apart.
i'm not sure what you are trying to talk to him about, just everyday things? or talking about the future?
i'm not sure how you should go about handling his senstivity. maybe work on re-wording things so he doesnt take it the wrong way or use a different tone.
mine did the same thing. calls me bitchy and whiny. name-calling is helping anyone. try visting lovingyou.com they have alot of great advice about communication.