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Not a question, just lonely
by Elyz1214, May 01, 2008 01:58AM
Do you ever have one of those moments when its 2 am and you wish you could sleep but you have too much on your mind and no one is awake at 2 a.m. anyway?
I told my fiancee a few hours ago that I just didnt feel romantic towards him anymore. We got into a really big fight a couple of weeks ago, he said some very mean things, and it really changed the way I look at him. He said he's noticed I never want to kiss him or snuggle anymore but figured it was pregnancy hormones. I dont think it is. I asked him 'do you really want to wait around 7 more months to figure it out?'
He said us getting pregnant was a bad idea and he didnt want to be a single parent. The prospect of being a single parent doesnt scare me one bit. I've never been married and have two other kids. I would rather be alone for the right reasons than with someone else for the wrong ones.
I've been supporting us the whole time we've been together (he's a college student - 20 years old, I'm a nurse - 33), so even the idea of paying for everything doesnt scare me - I figured I would have to do it all along.
He asked if I could take a few more weeks and think about things, he has finals coming up and does not want to be distracted. Fine. We'll wait a few weeks and see where it goes but if I dont feel this way now and the resentment will likely build from here, I don't see what's going to change.
Thanks for letting me vent...
I told my fiancee a few hours ago that I just didnt feel romantic towards him anymore. We got into a really big fight a couple of weeks ago, he said some very mean things, and it really changed the way I look at him. He said he's noticed I never want to kiss him or snuggle anymore but figured it was pregnancy hormones. I dont think it is. I asked him 'do you really want to wait around 7 more months to figure it out?'
He said us getting pregnant was a bad idea and he didnt want to be a single parent. The prospect of being a single parent doesnt scare me one bit. I've never been married and have two other kids. I would rather be alone for the right reasons than with someone else for the wrong ones.
I've been supporting us the whole time we've been together (he's a college student - 20 years old, I'm a nurse - 33), so even the idea of paying for everything doesnt scare me - I figured I would have to do it all along.
He asked if I could take a few more weeks and think about things, he has finals coming up and does not want to be distracted. Fine. We'll wait a few weeks and see where it goes but if I dont feel this way now and the resentment will likely build from here, I don't see what's going to change.
Thanks for letting me vent...
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I'm not sure if it is my hormones or if it's the strain of all the comlpication's we've hit so far,,,, we're due to get married in a matter of week's and i cant decide if i want to go through with it!!!!
I have chose for the next few month's not to make any rash desision's untill after the baby is born or untill i feel my hormones are more settled..... your not alone xxxx
I was married years ago and divorced 8....was dating this guy off and on and nice man no kids but not relationship material....and this was a surprise (still waiting on blood work) but I am happy and anxious and looking forward it and WILLING AND HAPPY to be doing this alone.... He said he would be here if i needed or wanted him but was not going to pressure me ....(great) but I feel the same no romantic feeling just happy to not be committed to anyone...who knows with the hormone changes maybe and I am sure it will change SEVERAL times along the way...but I pray I am prepared to....best of luck to you ....thats what we are all here for ....SUPPORT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It might be the hormones...and it might not be...
These first 12 weeks have been kind of an emotional rollercoaster and I can definitely say there are times I feel alone...can't sleep....emotionally unsupported....etc...but I do think some of it is the hormones.
I would try not to make any life changing decisions in the next couple of months if you can avoid it. If you have to make those kinds of choices...try to do so after a couple of days thought.
I know I've asked myself ...was it worse with my X...yeah....is it harder by myself....yeah....do I still want him here even though he pisses me off.....yeah...OK...I'm ok...just frustrated....at least that's my thought process. Good Luck girls!!!