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to move again for him?
by bleeks, May 02, 2008 02:11PM
The Situation: I have been with my boyfriend for 4.5 years. I moved across country to live with him while he was in school, left all my friends and family behind. Made a small life for us out here, some friends, job {not career} and I really like it. Now he was accepted to school, all the way back east. He wants me to move with him.
The Problem: I dont know that im confident in our relationship anymore. I feel to be always living his dreams and am not sure what I want to do. Moving would be exciting but to leave everything again? We also have a very high/low relationship, and he has a temper.
Just looking for some advice from someone who doesn't know us.
The Problem: I dont know that im confident in our relationship anymore. I feel to be always living his dreams and am not sure what I want to do. Moving would be exciting but to leave everything again? We also have a very high/low relationship, and he has a temper.
Just looking for some advice from someone who doesn't know us.
Member Comments (4)
by Ceela, May 02, 2008 02:24PM
To: bleeks
Sorry I wouldn't move to follow him unless we were married. The fact that he has made the decision to move and is asking you to go with him as an after thought would be a problem for me. Would he stay there to be with you and go to school locally? It doesn't sound like it. Also it doesn't sound like you should marry him even if he were willing and it sounds like you know it. I would tell him you are happy where you are and don't want to move and see what happens. I he has no qualms about your face in the rear view mirror then it sounds like you dodged a bullet and can move on to someone who really wants to be with you. It's hard to let a relationship go but it sounds like this one is half way gone already. Sorry...it stinks!
by jo929, May 02, 2008 02:54PM
To: Bleeks
I sounds like you are giving up a lot. just to go with a boyfriend., as neither of you are married, it sounds like he does not want to commit, also, he should try, and think of what you want to do. you both need to sit down, and see if this relationship is going anywhere, it sounds like he has all of the benifets.Think of this it has been 5 long years, and no real commitment. I do wish you well jo
by teko, May 02, 2008 06:55PM
You are boyfriend and girlfriend not husband and wife, which you probably should be after 4 years of seeing each other. Anyway, sorry I got off topic. Why not stay behind for now, see how you feel in a few months, then you can join him if you still want to. It sounds like you need some space, to see how you really feel. I am guessing that you are not that much into him anymore, and it may be a good opportunity to get some space and think about it.
by treazzure007, May 06, 2008 12:50PM
Maybe she's one of the type of people who never intended to go into marriage anytime soon. In any case, if you dont want to move, dont. You are not "tied" to him.
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