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Should I believe he cheated on me?
by babywanted556, May 02, 2008 05:11PM
My old, fat employee who works in my restaurant's chicken, came to me and said my husband and her have been love for 6 months, and it's over about 8 months ago. She even tell me in detail to have sex with him and kiss till he comes.
They're 53 yrs old and both older than me 15 yrs. She's still in her marriage and has 2 children in college.
My husband just takes care my restaurant and it's lost, while I have full-time job with profession carrer, making a lot of money.
I pay all bills, morgate, car, insurance, business lost and so on.....
We married for 8 yrs and my husband loves me badly....ofcourse, he depends on me. Even so, I cook every day, clean up house, and even iron all cloths and so on....he never does any house work.
I know she failed in love with my husband, but I never thought that he would have an affair with her since he pretends to hate her so much in front of me.
The restaurnt close on Wed., and she told me they have sex in the motel about 20 times on those Wed., and she can tell me where is the most sensitive part in his body. That make me so anger at him and just think of the divorce.
He never admit this affair and said he might joke around in the chicken with other guys, she might listen and make up that story and just want me to divorce him since she could not have him.
Who should I believe? I checked all phone bill back there and yes, they did called to each other about 20 min. on those Wed. He said they might talk about the business. Why need to talk on the closed busniess hour? It remind me these day he went home really late like 1-2 am. I asked him where was him, he never let me know and ask me not to worry he just hang in out with friend and never be with any girl. I trust him. It aslo remind me those day we have sex once per week even per 2 weeks and he said he's so tired because of the business.
Lately we open on Wed and there is no more phone call on Wed.....as she admit their affair also over.
I feel numb since I give out a lot to him, and he would cheat on me for that housewife lady who never works for life and this is her first job since she just wants to be close to him. My husband knew her from my other business and ask her come to help us on the restaurant.
Please advice.
They're 53 yrs old and both older than me 15 yrs. She's still in her marriage and has 2 children in college.
My husband just takes care my restaurant and it's lost, while I have full-time job with profession carrer, making a lot of money.
I pay all bills, morgate, car, insurance, business lost and so on.....
We married for 8 yrs and my husband loves me badly....ofcourse, he depends on me. Even so, I cook every day, clean up house, and even iron all cloths and so on....he never does any house work.
I know she failed in love with my husband, but I never thought that he would have an affair with her since he pretends to hate her so much in front of me.
The restaurnt close on Wed., and she told me they have sex in the motel about 20 times on those Wed., and she can tell me where is the most sensitive part in his body. That make me so anger at him and just think of the divorce.
He never admit this affair and said he might joke around in the chicken with other guys, she might listen and make up that story and just want me to divorce him since she could not have him.
Who should I believe? I checked all phone bill back there and yes, they did called to each other about 20 min. on those Wed. He said they might talk about the business. Why need to talk on the closed busniess hour? It remind me these day he went home really late like 1-2 am. I asked him where was him, he never let me know and ask me not to worry he just hang in out with friend and never be with any girl. I trust him. It aslo remind me those day we have sex once per week even per 2 weeks and he said he's so tired because of the business.
Lately we open on Wed and there is no more phone call on Wed.....as she admit their affair also over.
I feel numb since I give out a lot to him, and he would cheat on me for that housewife lady who never works for life and this is her first job since she just wants to be close to him. My husband knew her from my other business and ask her come to help us on the restaurant.
Please advice.
Member Comments (7)
by Annie124, May 03, 2008 08:22PM
To: babywanted556
Fire her immediately! You do not need to be paying her salary! As to whether or not they had an affair the answer is probably they did. He hasn't done a good enough job explaining the phone calls or the night out he had. Can you and your husband heal and move on from this? I would say only if he's truthful with you, shows remorse and is really willing to re-commit himself to the marriage.
by tbop, May 03, 2008 11:32PM
Are you in love with him? If you are faybe you need more time or attentin. And get rid of her. it sounds like he has it made with you. But also let him feel like he is needed. sometimes poeple want to feel needed. never stop dating. I would not want to know if he done it . If he was not doing it anymore. It just hurts . good luck.
by jo929, May 04, 2008 08:19AM
To: babywanted
I would agree with Annie, He would have to do a little more explaining I also think she knows his body well if she knows his sensitive parts, He does need to be honest,. Maybe he id one of those men that think they can do anything, and get by with it, also why would she tell you about it, after it is over, that puzzels me luck jo
by treazzure007, May 06, 2008 09:04AM
Stop being so mad at that lady. You should be irate with your husband. It could be anybody else next time if he's not even sorry for this one.
by john911, May 15, 2008 05:50AM
You should be mad at them both she opened her legs and he put it in they both did it. It takes two not one.
by teko, May 15, 2008 07:06AM
A woman cannot seduce a man unless he wants to be seduced. We do like to blame the woman, but the man has a choice to zip or unzip, does he not? Aside from that and back to your original question as to if he did or did not cheat. Listen to your inner person, deep down you know the answer to your question. The wife is always the first to know but the last to admit it is possible.
by john911, May 18, 2008 07:51AM
Again as I said if he did cheat on you blame them both. The woman is just as at fault as the male
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