My husband vs my daughter/niece

[ljo4]

My daughter and my niece have said that my husband has "touched" them in a place he shouldn't had. He voluntarily went for a polygraph test. Was forced to sign a confession sheet or the police said that I would not get my daughter back, so he signed it. He is of hispanic origin. After he got arrested my daughter comes to me and says that she don't think it happened, my niece told her about it. Now its to late for my husband. cause he's in jail til court. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME....WHO DO I BELIEVE AND WHAT SHOULD I DO?

[treazzure007]

About who to believe:
Its important to do a blow by blow account of what did take place with your daughter and niece separately.  Thats eventually what will happen in the court process anyway.  You will have a clearer understanding from that and be ready to accept that this event is very likely to have happened.

About your daughter being confused on the issue:
Sometimes, after a person tells on someone, they can harbor feelings of regret.  After seeing the police, seeing the seriousness of the whole situation, and seeing you upset has likely caused her to be afraid and overwhelmed.

About your Husband:
I dont believe that there's a person on the planet that would sign away their freedom or a flat out lie.  If NONE OF THIS was true, he should never have signed.  It doesn't matter if you wouldnt have had your daughter back right away.  People have to be strong and stand for the truth.  A confession was signed?  It looks grim

[MrsOckert]

I agree.  A friend's husband was accused of molesting a couple young girls.  He voluntarily went to prison for 8 years "to avoid distressing the girls in a court trial".

Uh huh.  Yeah.   Right.

Your daughter is very scared of your reaction right now.  I hope you will help your daughter and niece through this very difficult time.

[RockRose]

I disagree that people don't sign confessions that are incorrect.  Jail is a hell of a place to be,  and the psychological pressure is intense - if he was told you wouldn't get your daughter back,  he might have signed.   Men confess to murder just to have the hours of questioning stopped,  and then DNA later clears them.  

You need a lawyer.  Do you have one already?  Get a good one,  money is only money,  the first consult is free before they tell you how much it will cost to defend you and what payment plans are available.

Go in for a free consult.  

[RockRose]

I meant to ask,  how old is your daughter and how old is the niece?  

[ljo4]

my niece is 12 and my daughter is 10. when i got my daughter away from my niece she said that she don't know what is going on that she is going by what my niece told her. my niece loves attention. my husband is hispanic and don't know alot about the laws here. so yes i do believe him when he said that he didn't know what he was signing and how the police department treats people of another culture or race of that matter.

[MrsOckert]

The problem I have is that in your first posting you said your daughter and neice both said he touched "them".

If your daughter is know saying that she was only going by what your neice said...then she lied.  Your daughter lied to your face.  You know your daughter .... would she do that?  Or is she so scared now of the consequences that she is retracting what she said.

But I'm biased here.  I was "touched" when I was 11 and my Dad lied about it.  Everyone believed him.  My mom, social workers, etc.  So I have a problem when a mother says who do I believe?

Did you know that 87% of girls are molested by step-fathers?

[mami1323]

I would believe the children.  I rarely think little girls would lie about being touched.  It is very embarassing to them and very difficult to admit to anyone, especially their mom.  If your husband truly was innocent, he would not have been forced into a confession.  Sorry but if I was innocent of something like that I would fight it tooth and nail, even if it meant hours of interrogation.  Pedophiles get killed in jail.  Also, think long and hard about the psychological effects this will have on your daughter if you choose the word of your husband over hers.