Baby's Name-

[tyjaksmom]

I am pregnant with my first son. -i have a daughter from a previous relationship- My finace has a son from his first marriage. His sons name is Steven Zakkary, but everyone calls him Zakk. His dad's name is Stephen spelled with the 'ph'  They say Zakk wasn't named after his dad, because it's spelled with the 'v' instead of 'ph'.
My name is Stephanie Nicole. My question is Do any of you think naming my son Stephen Nikolas-Jakson would be wrong? I have always wanted a son to be named after me. This way he can be named after me and his father... but his older brother will have the same name too, but spelled different.
Am I just stressing too much or should I not name him Stephen because of his brother's name?

-please give some advise... Im 25 weeks now and I feel like he needs a name! I don't feel comfortable calling him 'him'

[Atlantisea]

I think give him a different name to his brother.
It will cause rivalry between them.
Children hate to share things, and you will be forcing them to share their identities...

[jesslee83]

i have this issue also, my stepsons name is joseph stephen....and i LOOOOOOOVE both names!
but i settled on jayson alexander! for a boy or elizabeth diane for a girl!

[JoyRenee]

This is my own personal opinion. I personally do not like "junior" names. I think you should give your son his own identity and name. You've already got a husband to call Stephen. I think George Foreman named all of his kids "George" and... that's just weird.

[mommywa]

My DH's cousin named all her boys the same first name, and calls them by their middle names.  I say what's the point of that.
To have two boys with same name but diff. spelling----too crazy!  It will just cause a lot of confusion.

[browneyedmama]

i would pick a different name. no kid wants to share ANYTHING with their brothers or sisters... i couldnt imagine sharing a name. each name should be unique to that child.

[nat1223]

I would strongly advise against naming your son Stephen. My father and his third wife did a similar thing to my little brother. My brother (full brother) is named Anthony Carman. My parents divorced and my father eventually remarried a younger woman and has had a child with her. She decided she loved the name Anthony and that is what they named my half brother, Anthony Nicholas. My full brother goes by Tony and my half brother goes by Anthony but it has caused a HUGE amount of friction in our family. My mother was livid, my grandparents (my father's parents) were livid and my full brother has been seeing a child psychologist and this is an issue he has talked about with the doctor on a number of occasions, he feels as though my dad thought he wasn't a good enough son and wanted to replace him (which is an issue for kids who deal with seperated parents any way, this just added a whole other more difficult layer). The last thing you want to do is cause a rift between your husbands son and the son you are having together, or between your husband's son and your husband.

I understand wanting to pick a name that you love for your child (believe me I have been going through it myself) but you also want to respect the boundries of your husband's relationship with his son. Regardless of the difference in spelling the names are the same. And think about it from your step-son's perspective. How would you have felt if your parents were no longer together and then your fatehr had a new daughter and gave her YOUR name?