whats happening when a child is wetting himself when he is not slepping,and not aware its happening.he is 5yrs old.

[beautiful420]

whats happening when a child is wetting him self when is not sleeping and not aware its happening.he is 5yrs old


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[April2]

You know, my daughter wet the bed for a long time. Yes, it's aggravating but she was such a deep sleeper, I knew she couldn't help it. And yes, she did outgrow it by the time she was in school. Now I'm seeing my 4 year old wetting the bed. We just make sure we wake him up a few times a night to go potty. Yes, we lose some sleep but we know he's not aware yet. I found out my husband used to wet the bed when he was a child, so this could be genetic. You might want to find out about that. Even if it's not, she should never be punished! That's only going to make things worse. She will start to hide it from them and that will just make them more angry. It can be a vicious circle. She WILL outgrow this if they will just be patient. Encourage them to see the doctor. I'm sure she doesn't mean this. The fact that she cries and feels bad about it says a lot. If she was doing it on purpose, she wouldn't feel bad about it. She'd be gloating about it. You know what I mean? If it truly was a power struggle, which is what I think your daughter-in-law thinks it is, then this child would take great pleasure in this, and she's not. That should be a big wake-up call!
What if she had a UTI or something? Have you asked your granddaughter if it hurts to pee? Do some investigative work on your part, too, and see what you come up with. You all can try the reward system when she remains dry, but this won't work if she truly can't help it.
I'm glad she's got you on her side. She needs to know she has unconditional love and support from somebody.
See if you can talk to your daughter-in-law and son, but be careful that you don't sound judgmental or accusing. Stay calm but please try to encourage them to get her checked out. If they refuse, keep bringing it up. And do your best to have that precious little girl over at your place as much as you can. She needs you right now.
Let us know how things go. I wish you all the best. God bless,
April

[April2]

Oh man, I just responded to your other post but I'm seeing more of the story here. How awful! She should never be punished! How do they know it's not medical? They need to get her checked out. Also, even if it's not medical, it could be emotional or she could be sleeping too deeply to wake up. By them punishing her they're making it worse. Do they realize that? Of course she lies and says she didn't do it! She's trying to avoid punishment! Who can blame her! They're going to damage this poor child's self-esteem badly if they don't stop this. They're just setting her up to lie, and they could even make the wetting worse because she's so anxious about it.
Please, please encourage them to get her to a doctor. Hopefully, the doctor will say the same thing I'm saying here, to not punish her!
That poor child. I feel so badly for her. She's going to feel like she's the bad child and not equal with her sisters. This could be something she carries with her the rest of her life if they don't put a stop to this now!

[no1daughterkat]

im concern about my soon to be 6 year old grand-daughter. She is wetting after she gets up and sometimes later.She is punished by staying in her room all day while the other 4 girls play. This has happened over and over.It breaks my heart.She is the youngest.She has a step sister that started to school last year.She use to be the one who wetted.They are 5 months apart.Just last week she wet the bed at my house.But Paige is punished all the time for it.They said she was and is always punished because she lies about it.Says she didn't when she knows she did.The other girls tell on her.Just today after work me and my husband took 5 little bags by to see them with them filled up with fruit.Again all four girls came to us to get the bags( all but Paige) because she has to stay in her room, I don't see them much and I was so hurt all I could do was walk out of there house upset. My daughter-in-law says Paige knows what shes doing and she don't care.Paige told me while in her room a few months ago that she prays to God every night to help her with tears running down her cheek. Please help me anyone. concern maw-maw

[treazzure007]

If a 5 yr old says they dont know it's happening, it must be true.  Id have him checked by a doctor.