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problem with Stepdaughters mother!
by armybratOK, May 07, 2008 10:02AM
My husbands ex (they weren't married) is having trouble with my stepdaughter, who will be 3 in July. She says that she doesn't listen, backtalks won't sleep, all of the usuals I guess. My problem is though, when she is with us we don't have any of those issues! I mean yes we get the occasional NO's but other than that she is a behaved little girl. My problem with her mother is that, she insinuates that I beat her child!!! I was shocked when I heard this, I would never!!! She constantly is badmouthing me to my in-laws, (who also keep my stepdaughter alot) I had absolutely no problems with this "woman" until recently when this started. And just recently my stepdaughter (who was with her mother at the time) lit her hair on fire! she tried to blow out a candle and it back fired on her. How negligent do you have to be? When she's with us, we have her on a regular schedule, goes to bed by 9 and just the other day it was nearly 11pm and her mom called because her daughter wanted to talk to her daddy. I know this isn't good for my stepdaughter (who i love as much as if she were my own) But how do I deal with an incompetent ex?
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by Dolphind, May 07, 2008 12:30PM
To: armybratOK
I have a similiar situation. Negligence, no curfew for bedtime etc.... At least she has 2 competent parents that are thinking of her. (I mean this in a good spirited way) Just keep her best interests in mind and keep doing what your doing. The problem is you have no control what the other parent is doing or how they are raising them (this cost us thousands of dollars to find this out) Just keep loving her and ignore the badmouthing. Sounds like she is bitter. Document everything by keeping a diary. Unfortunatly these kinds of things happen alot and you have the bitter parent not thinking of the child, but of themselves. Hope this helps and good luck
by treazzure007, May 07, 2008 02:15PM
I agree and ignore the badmouthing and when someone does mention something her mother may have said, just smile and shake your head. Your stepdaughter's behavior may improve as she matures over the years and you will definately want a decent relationship in place with her mother as well.
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