Is there a way?

[Chexy]

Hi, I know everyone has a different opinion about masturbation and this has nothing to do with a disorder of the penis, but if anyone has some insight for me, it would be much appreciated. My boyfriend has been trying to stop masturbating as he thinks it's wrong and it degrades his mental state in some way. He'd rather his mind be focused on more useful things than having time taken away for a trivial act. I'm not looking for any answers telling me that it's actually good for you and it helps to prevent cancer. I'm looking for an honest answer.
Thanks!

[rankett]

Well, what's the problem here? Your boyfriend has apparently a girlfriend (you) and he is trying to stop masturbating. I see nothing wrong with that. When I had a girlfriend I needed not even to think about stopping masturbation. It happened naturally. All my energy was for the girl which I loved so much. It's that simple.

I am not sure if I answered your question; the answer is so straight that I am wondering if I understand correctly.

[Chexy]

We're not sexually active and don't plan on becoming sexually active until we're married (if we get there). I guess for a lot of men it's hard to stop masturbating at all, though I'm glad you found it be effortless. He can go about 3-4 weeks without doing it and then seems to cave in. I know it's just a matter of will power, but do you have any suggestions on things that may distract him if he gets this urge?

[rankett]

> We're not sexually active and don't plan on becoming sexually active
> until we're married (if we get there)

OK, that explains some things. If it is so, then it is quite natural for him to masturbate.

> ...though I'm glad you found it be effortless.

Well, to put things into perspective, for me it was completely effortless since I had contact with my then girlfriend at daily basis. But even with less frequent contacts later on, it was not difficult to avoid masturbating. Once a man "tastes" a woman, in general he does not look back. There are exceptions of course.

> I know it's just a matter of will power, but do you have any
> suggestions on things that may distract him if he gets this urge?

I don't see why avoid to masturbate if you don't have intimate relations. Even if he manages to completely abstain, he may wet the bed after some time during sleep, especially if he is still very young.

If for some reason you wish distraction as a help to abstain, then this depends on what your boyfriend finds interesting. As a general rule, he can practice hobbies that are either energy consuming, like some sport, or demanding intellectually, like puzzles, reading/studying, learning and practicing music etc. But above all, it must be something that can absorb him. Only you two know what this could be. And of course the outcome will also much depend on his will power. Oh, and don't underestimate the power of the subconscious, it will do its job during sleep.

[Chexy]

Thanks for all your help!